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writes:I have not had sex within a relationship in a good while, my current/new bf and I have mutually decided it is time to go there. I was all for it at first and now I am having great anxieties over my body and whether he'll accept my post mom much less than perfect body. I really do want to have sex with him, really. Should I wait or what? Reply to this Question
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reader, Cateyes +, writes (22 May 2007):
 Number #1..repeat after me...NO ONE HAS THE PERFECT BODY!!
Number #2..feel comfortable in the skin your in, otherwise if you truly can't, then maybe try working out at home or the gym if this will ease your mind.
I seriously think that if you two have been dating for awhile...I really believe in waiting, but that's me...then he would respect and want to be with you even more so...and not just as a fling or for the person "in the meantime" till the right one come's along. It depends what you are looking for in a relationship though. As far as feeling comfortable, never rush yourself even though those desires come on you. Your body AND your mind should be as one....feeling comfortable with each other no matter what. My body is not "perfect", however, it's how and what we do with it to express to our loved one how we feel, appreciate and love them with all our heart. When a person can really love another, truly love another...there could be a ton of imperfections, but that person can and will look over them all. Also, I am sure you are feeling quite nervous, as this would be expected, but remember...it's like riding a bike...you'll get the hang of it back AND you'll feel comfortable doing it! :) Remember...practice safe sex....it's not just about getting pregnant anymore!!
Best of Luck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2007): Well, if you're nervous, then wait. Never ley a man push or pressure you into anything. Your body? Don't worry, my boyfriend is fit and I'm on the overweight side and we love eachother to death. We are perfectly fine with eachother's bodies. He should accept you for the way you are and not by your pant's size. I'm sure you'll be great, and don't be so self conscious about it. If he truly loves you, well, its you, which means your body as well. Go for it if you think your ready! And use PROTECTION PLEASE!!!
-Racheal
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