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*ExcuseTheBeauty2
writes:I have been talking to this guy a year now and he's everything I wanted in a man. After the year was up we were told we were related. That hurt me to the core. We care for each other so much. Is it wrong to not let go? I wish I would have known from the start I would not have even went there but I love him dearly Reply to this Question
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reader, ExcuseTheBeauty2 +, writes (1 November 2012):
ExcuseTheBeauty2 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the feedback & this its how I was told we were related my fathers grandmother & his mothers grandmother are 1st cousins which makes my dad mom 2nd my dads 3rd & my4th I think that's how that goes, but yeah that's how I left someone I was with for 8 years to be with him no I find this out ugh!
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reader, ExcuseTheBeauty2 +, writes (1 November 2012):
ExcuseTheBeauty2 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the feedback & this its how I was told we were related my fathers grandmother & his mothers grandmother are 1st cousins which makes my dad mom 2nd my dads 3rd & my4th I think that's how that goes, but yeah that's how I left someone I was with for 8 years to be with him no I find this out ugh!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2012): it depends on your religion or culture.
in my religion, you can not be with your father, son or brother. but it's ok to be with your cousin.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (27 October 2012):
 I think it really matter as to HOW you are related.. by blood or by extended family intermarrying?
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx  +, writes (26 October 2012):
 I live in a very small town, and beleive it or not i do hear countless stories of how people get together and then happen to find out they are related in some way.
I can imagine how much it must hurt to find out that someone you love in a relationship way, is then revealed to acutally be family.
However how are you related? There are many people who feel being in a relationship with there second cousin or even first cousin is okay, and tbh in your situation i would say aslong as there is no implications to do with your familes opinions on this, then i beleive it is perfectly acceptable to remain in a relationship with this person due to you both acutally being in romantic love with eachother before you knew.
I can say i would find it hard after finding out what you have, to have a family bond or relationship with that same person simply because i would know that i infact loved them in a whole new way.
Its your opinion what you do, being related by 2nd or 3rd cousins and still being in a relationship in my opinion is perfectly fine, however if its maybe something like brother or uncle or something like that, then i would think about maybe having a chat with this guy about what steps are best to take next. Goodluck xx
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (26 October 2012):
 Related how? brother and sister?
cousins?
aunt and uncle?
HOW you are related matters...
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