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writes: I’ve been dating a woman for 4 months and it has been amazing and passionate. We seem to have connected on almost every level: physical, intellectual, emotional, etc. We never addressed it directly, but it seemed like we were both feeling something special. Enter the ex…she ended it with him initially (only 3 weeks before our first date) because she wanted more commitment from him. She was in love with him at one point, but because he couldn’t give her what she needed, the passion cooled and she ended it. Then 4 weeks ago she came to me and said her ex had written her several letters asking her to marry him. She told me she needed time apart from me to figure out whether she was still in love with him. At that point I told her exactly how I felt about her and that I was crazy about her, which seemed to surprise her. A week later I called her and she tearfully confessed that she missed me and wanted to see me. We enjoyed a 2-day 'reunion' before we both had to travel and wouldn’t see each other again for 2 weeks. While we were apart, she sent messages that she missed me and couldn’t wait to be together again.When we reunited, we spent the evening together and everything seemed wonderful. But at the end of the evening she said she had only been fooling herself and that she still hadn’t sorted out her feelings. She needed more time and this time I really shouldn’t contact her again until she did so.She’s ‘the one’ and this is tearing me apart. I’ve never had this kind of connection before and at 37 I’ve met many women. Do I remain completely silent, do I send her notes that I’m still thinking about her, do I fight for her, do I end it with her, or do I just move on and forget about her? Losing her though would be so painful since I’m convinced we were meant for each other.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2005): i am in the same situation as you at this very moment... i also want to know what to do. it helps to know that im not the only one out there. good luck with your relationship
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2005): communication is a major thing to any relationship whether it be family, friend or love. a small communication can make a world of difference. be honest, realistic and positive. in saying that be honest and realistic with yourself as well.
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