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writes:Hello there, My girlfriend (27) and I(30) cant stop fighting , we are together now over 3 years and have a 2 and half year old son. I think at the end of the day we are only together because of him. We live together and currently I run a scuba business and im in the process of opening a 2nd business (autoglass). She works full time but shift hours at a very stressful job looking after delinguent youths in a house. We were crazy in love when we got together. I was working away from home a lot but decieded to start a business to be home ever night because I was been missed at home and naturaly missed her and my son. Its been tough giving up a good payed job to make peanuts but thats what happens with you start a business right ? even 2. ?we fight because she is gone to work nearly all the time so im trying to run the house aswell, and when shes home she feels like she does everthing and even today was giving out because i dont have a full time job and not making a great income ( eaten patatos are soon forgoten, thats 1 lesson ive learned ) and shes rite im not but why does this make me a failure in her eyes, she has lost her sex drive a good while back. Am i just not seen the bigger picture here ? is she just a total cow or what ? or is it me , I try hard at work for god sake I was a commercial diver , but now im trying to be home for my son and girlfriend but feel like now that im here im only a failure !!! what to do , what to do.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (4 December 2010):
 I believe you guys fight because it sounds like there's not enough time spent together. What days do you guys have off? Make that day a family day, where you guys go out and do fun activities. Maybe take your son to the park, bowling, a nice dinner, a little mini golf whatever as long as you guys are together. You both work hard and you both deserve time off, perhaps take a vacation.
As far as the housework goes, it couldn't hurt to split the chores. You take out the trash, do a couple loads of laundry, load the dishwasher. She cooks, cleans the kitchen, vacuums the house..you get the idea. Start working together as a team instead of against each other. The stress will lessen up and her sex drive will come back.
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