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writes:hi am female and having sexual affair with my cousinwhen it all started i was in his home for vacation and we got a couple of drinks and he kissed me first, i was very shocked. we usually ended up in his bed. my mind tell me not to do it but my body does the opposit. after some time we start to have constant meetings and will end up in his bedroom. he treated me like queen and very cautious to my feelings. i never had such experience before and tenderness with my former boy freinds. i dont know what to call this relationship because he is my first cousin. he is handsome and some years older than me. am sinking in with inexplicable emotion. we both dont want that our parents find out about it. but at the same time couldnt stop our feelings for each other. i need some advice
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reader, RAINORFIRE  +, writes (25 April 2012):
 i dont think its a big deal your a grownup do what you. just know every choice has consequences. humans have been going with relatives since our dawn theres no scientific conclusion that offspring produced in this way would be any diffrent, but naturally diversity allows for more safeguards. but i suspect most laws governing thing are for moral reasons, yet pornography,prostitution, homosexual marriages and all sort of things seem ok so why not 1st cousins
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2012): Given the intensity of the prejudice against marrying any cousin at all, you can be pretty sure of taking some flack on this, and I guess you have noticed that already. But it's not like it's the end of the world. Lot's of people find themselves victims of prejudice. Let me suggest an artilce that has some facts: An Association between Kinship and Fertility of Human Couples Agnar Helgason et al. SCIENCE vol. 329 no. 5864 February 8, 2008 page 813 – 816 You can get if from sciencemag.org for few bucks. SCIENCE is a highly respected journal. If you are having sex, then you need to think about marriage and babies. I think if you read the article, you will conclude that first cousin is not the best choice from a biological standpoint. Whether it is a better choice than marrying a total stranger as your gadflies presumably would like, is not clear to me from the article. As far as the "gross" argument, I would give it no weight at all. Life is gross. As far as offending your family, well they do matter, but the last time I checked it was your life and your happiness. As for whatever anybody else thinks, unless you are breaking a law where you live, I would consider ignoring them. If they didn't have you to hate, they'd find someebody else.
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reader, In.love.with.him +, writes (14 April 2012):
 if your mind is telling you the opposite the than your body then leave your attraction is completely sexual their are no feelings especially when your mind is saying the opposite
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