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writes:I had a best friend. He told me he liked me, and as a matter of fact, I liked him as well. We kept talking everyday, everyday getting to know each other even better. Talked about everything. And 2 and a half weeks later he asked me to be his girlfriend. Me, having been eager about this the entire time I knew him, the day when he'd see that I wad meant for him, and he meant for me(Cliché, I know). But that's how I felt.Anyhow, we dated for 3 months, I really fell hard for him, harder than I had already.But throughout the second and third month there were...complications, one might say. My best girl friend and my brother weren't liking him very much, which put a lot of stress on me. But he also changed, he somewhat "flirted" on facebook with both girls and boys(yes, he's bi). I may have been overreacting but "dude you're so hot! ;)" seems like flirting to me. But I found it okay, I let it slip by unnoticed. But he also became more and more possessive, he didn't want me hugging my friends, he told me so. He didn't like me going out with my friends, it seemed to bother him a lot. He changed a lot, and tried to change me.But I love him, and I was trying to be a "good girlfriend". So I let that slip by unnoticed as well. Two of days after our 3 months my parents said they wanted me to break up with him, because they said I was too depressed all the time and I was changing. So I did as they said.Three days later my friend tells me he told her sister he liked her, and told her(my friend) that he loved her sister and never wanted to let her go. I was even more heartbroken than I was before. Couple of days afterwards he added me on Facebook again and we talked about everything that happened. I kept getting more and more depressed because I saw that all the "love" he said he had for me was gone. And I felt ad if was the only one who had meant the word "love" and who had kept the promise we made to each other of forever.I deleted him from facebook, having him as a friend was doing me no good.But I really truly miss him, I'm not sure if I should add him again, talk about EVERYTHING and see how things turn out or wait until I'm "over him", which I don't know how long it'll take, and then talk to him.What should I do?
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reader, RainbowGummyBear +, writes (26 October 2010):
RainbowGummyBear is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you. :)
Yes I know it takes time, it's been a month and a day. I'm going to give it more time though, I am in no state to be talking to him at all.
I'll wait. Thanks again.
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reader, little x bear  +, writes (25 October 2010):
 Hey sweetie,
Its probably best you wait until your completely over him- I made the mistake of trying to talk to my ex straight after we broke up and ended up with him in a lot of pain! Give it time honey, he's obviously not worth it if he has done this but at the same time it needs closure. Give it a month or two :)
Little bear x
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