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writes: sorry long post but pls i really need some help!my fiancee and i broke up in july he said he was too young to be in a relationship. His mum and i were very close and she said it was he was in debt and couldn't cope with the pressure of being adult.he moved away and for a long time i wished we were still together but knowin he was so far away that i would never see him really helped. we lived in a small town and so it would have been impossible to avoid each other.i have recently heard he has come home for the summer and its destroyin me. he is going to be out in all the places i am and i cant cope with seeing him especially with someone else though apparently he is still single no doubt he will be looking 4 girls in town and that hurts.he hasn't contacted me in months and the fact he's around is too difficult because as sad as he is i feel he is my soul mate but realistically i doubt we'll ever get back together how do i cope with him being around?please what should i do?
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reader, Royofthe Rovers +, writes (30 April 2007):
 Your in a difficult situation and my heart goes out to you. Seeing someone again that you loved as you did in a different position (not together) is extremely hard especially when you still hold feelings for them. Seeing them again is only going to bring back those memories which are going to hurt you so much. You need to be strong about this. It is the only way you can deal with it.
Dont stay away from your favourite places just to avoid him, you dont know where you might bump into him. It could be anywhere..
If you go out make sure you with plenty of good friends around who can distract you from him if you see him. Having a good time with your mates is going to help draw your mind off things with him around, so make sure you keep yourself busy as much as possible. It is not easy forgetting a soul mate you have lost, so dont feel bad about feeling the way you are, its just a natural reaction.
Remember he is only here for the summer so use that as a positive spin on things. Keep smiling and keep that chin up.
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