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anonymous
writes:A month ago, my boy friend and I broke up beacuse of a fight we had. Got back as friends and were coming back into our relationship and two weeks ago I went to his place for a movie. I was lying on his chest him cuddling me and everything. Things were finaly geting better when it was a wednesday and he told me he could not see me because he had a test on thurday. But two girls both our friends called me and asked me to go out with them. I refused and when they asked him he also refused. When he told me he refused I asked him why because either way as he was going to study in a public place he would see them. He thought I meant he would see them and not me. He got angry and we did not talk we would just answer each other rudely.Later he was studying with another guy, and when I passed I saw him smoking with those girls. I did not go to them instead went to his friend. Then they all came in and he went to the loo but I saw one of the girls sitting next to his bag with her purse. So I left before he came back and texted his guy friend to ask if the girls left. He said one was stil there the other left. So I got angry and asked what she was doing there he was like they are just friends and after a while she left. He came to know about me asking his friend, he asked his friend to tell me where he sat and all that and he did not sit near the girl she was sitting on the sofa , and he was siting on the chair and he thought I was spying I told him no its because I was jealous but he got angry and he did not want to talk to me or text me. After two days, I went to his place to talk to him that we should at least be friends but he did not want that, and he was still blaming me for spying on him and stuff. But now I came to know from a friend that he liked one of those girls like maybe a week back or something and now he came to know she has a boy friend so he does not like her anymore. I don't know if what I heard is right or wrong? Shall I trust it or not? Because I remember when he actually did not sit near her even his friend told me that he sat on the chair while she sat on the sofa.he told his friend to tel me the truth because he thinks I don't trust him. We have been dating for a year and every time we fight we can't stay without talking for more than 3 days its like the maximum.Today is the 3rd day and I have not texted him and he also has not texted me. Shall I wait for him to text me? And also wait for him to realise what he did was wrong? How long will it take? In my heart I know he loves me and I dont trust that he can like that girl. As when we were at his place he said she is just a friend and even the time we fought he said she is just a friend.. What shall I do now? How long will it take him to realise and text back? Will he even text back?
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reader, Deagan  +, writes (25 July 2012):
 I agree with agonyauntanonymous.
It appears as though this relationship is over. I think he's trying to end it as nicely as possible but he is unintentionally leading you on. It seems like he tried to limit contact with you, so you went through his friend to get attention; so of course he's a bit annoyed over that.
Over the past year, you 2 constantly fought, gave each other the silent treatment, made up and repeated that vicious cycle over and over. We are human, we can only take so much of that instability.
He's trying to move on, and you should do the same. Don't wait for him to text you back. Go out with friends and enjoy life.
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reader, agonyauntsanonymous +, writes (25 July 2012):
Im not trying to be rude, but are you really 22-25? Things got misconstrued for sure, but you probably should have clarified the misunderstanding and talked to him, not his friend. I dont think either of you are mature enough for a relationship if this small misunderstanding has been blown up into a break up, then it was likely already there. And you said you just got back together two weeks ago... And broke up the first time due to a fight? People fight, but it doesnt typically lead to a break up. Idk i think we are missing some info. It seems likes its already over, so move on and focus on you, hold off on dating for a year or two then see where you are. Best wishes.
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