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writes:Hello,My ex of 5 months and I broke up in August. We had a really cute, unexpected relationship. I didn't plan on dating him but it just sort of happened. He had great chemistry and talked to eachother about life, etc. He said I was the only that has a "soul" to him and he trusted me. I'm sure some people know what that means. I'm not gonna go into too much detail. We make a great team, have a great time, are amazing lovers. it's all good, but we broke up bc of things that don't even make sense. He said we were on different levels and he wasn't happy. But he seemed happy and we were still in love, so I think he's just confused? After the breakup he dated this one girl who was his friend for a while. We didn't talk during that time and I was hurt like fuck. That lasted 2 months and he messaged me to hang out the day after. Since hanging out again we act the same as before just without physical contact. At first he seemed distant but now he's just cute as hell again and, in my opinion, flirting? But he's always like that so who knows. Anyways, through all this pain and whatever I've been through, I'm still in love with him. What is the next step I should take in getting him back? Any advice on what not to do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2011): I think you're right that he's confused. To be honest, I'm not 100% convinced he has bad intentions (though of course I could be wrong). I think I get what he meant with the "soul" and "on different levels" comments; is he quite introspective? Or into New Age type stuff at all? Either way, he certainly hasn't seemed sure of what he wants since you broke up, so tread carefully. You don't want to end up getting hurt again. I'd keep things pretty platonic for now (hold off on the physical contact and flirting etc.) and see how things pan out, because he needs time to reflect upon and sort out whatever he's thinking and feeling. You can still enjoy each other's company, but don't try to "get him back". If this relationship is truly right for you, he'll come back - and stay - of his own will in time :) Good luck and take care x
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