We broke up but she says I'm perfect-so why can't she decide if she wants to come back?

Hi, im 21 and my girlfriend is 19. We both went through a lot of troubles together and i helped her through a family crisis that her friends did not help her out with after only a week of going out. We've been goin out for 7 months but after the 5th or 6th month, she started to wonder why her feelings weren't as strong as they should be for that time being. She thought about taking a break and after a couple of days i convinced her to ride it out. Her feelings from there fluctuated from loving me to not wanting me around. She broke up with me 3 days ago because she said she wants some alone and single time. She said she needed some time with friends and wasn't looking to go into a new relationship with a new guy. She just didn't want a boyfriend at the moment and it didn't give her the room for her feelings to grow since half of her wanted to embrace the single life (clubbing and barhopping with friends). She did say she liked everything about me and thought of me as the perfect boyfriend. The breakup was odd.. she cried and repeatedly told me how hard it was and how much she was going to miss me but its wut she needed to do for the sake of the relationship. HOWEVER, she told me not to get my hopes up and she may or may not come back. MY question: if i was so perfect to her, why won't she come back to me when shes ready for a relationship? and why can't she give me the answer in confidence? also... how long should i go without talking to her... do u believe in "absence makes the heart grow fonder?" or do u believe in "outta sight, outta mind?" and she also mentioned she doubts she'll get into another relationship but that if it falls in her lap, she won't know how to treat it. WHAT SHOULD I DO? HOW SHOULD I ACT a couple of months later when i casually bump into her? SHOULD i call her at all or not? PLEASE HELP!!

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