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writes: Dear Cupid,It has been just over a week since my relationship ended. We parted on good terms agreeing that it was for the best. We were together for 6 years but for a year now we were stuck in a rut and I think the relationship got boring. She started distancing herself from me and spent more time with her friends, from there it went downhill. She is no longer in-love, but still loves and cares for me, or so she says.I wrote her a blame letter, thanking her for everything and blaming myself for the way things turned out and she replied in a very polite manner thanking me for things but avoided talking about anything in particular, was more of a parting reply. I know I can't go back to the life we had because I wasn't happy and I know I need to move on and create my own life and make myself happy, but I don't want to lose our friendship. She seems cold, but from talking to people it sounds like she is hurting. I guess she is a strong person and doesn't show it.Her and response didn't give any chance for further conversations... What should I do? I really feel our relationship fell apart because of circumstances and that she still is my best friend. Just don't know if she feels that way.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (12 January 2006):
Hi there,
I'm sorry to hear that you are very upset at the moment, but don't worry you will come through at the other end! I understand that you desperatly want that friendship back and you can get it back! But in time. The relationship only ended a week ago right, so there will be alot of opened wounds and hurt feelings that need to be dealt with. She might first need some time alone, before going back into a friendship with you. TIme is the key facotr her I believe. But keep reminding her that you want to be friends. I think perhaps you should some how get in contact with her and say that you feel its hard to get the friendship back but really want it and ask her how does she think, (providing she aggrees) you can work together to get it back? Also tell her that you know she might be hurting and it could be awakard to be aroudn each other for a bit, but you will be there waiting when she is ready.
Keep contacting her and see how she is going.
Put all your efort into it, because otherwise if you dont and it doesnt work out you will never feel ok. If you try your hardest atleast then you can know if it was meant to be or not.
But remember, don't frown because its over, smile because it happened! Remember the good times and be thankful taht you expeirenced them one time.
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