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writes: So I'm confused and here's why:My boyfriend of three months told me that he was going to leave New Jersy and move to North Carolina in with his mom. This was just this past friday. He asked me what he should do so I told him" he should do what makes him happy, but if he really doesn't like it here, don't stay for me because I want you to be the most happy you can be". With that he tells me that's being with me, he doens't want to ruin what we have. I tell him again and then I say that NJ sucks a lot. The convo went on for a while adn then he said he was going to move within a week or two, that his dad was upset he was leaving because he only just got there 6 months ago and didn't try to make himself happy other than me. He also told me that when we didn't hang or wasn't thinking of me, he was depressed. So, I get upset because I know this meant the end of the relationship because he even said that when he moves he wants to be single so that he can get life straigtened out. I don't tell him I'm upset until the next day.On Saturday he texts me how I'm doing because my friend Nikki asked him why we broke up (never told anyone why because I have no idea if we broke up or what). So I tell him the truth, I'm sad he's going but his happiness will make me happy. I want him to be happy. So then he says he doesn't think he's moving, he's gonna give NJ a fair shot and try to get a job and go to community college in the fall. I say well do what makes you happy. and he says that that was "being with me". So now here's what I'm confused about and I really wanna avoid asking him to not look like an idiot or clingy or "that girl": am I single or in a relationship?He goes on facebook every day and never changed his relationship status, in fact when we started dating he changed it the second I said yes and made me do the same. Just thought that might helpI'm really trying to relax but I've been internally debating this and I want to see how other people view this as me either being single or not. Also, if you all could give me like advice to like not have panic attacks, that would help. No one knows I get them but liek..i get them a lot :/thank you 3 hope you all have a great day :)
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reader, daniellexxxx  +, writes (30 April 2012):
 Well what ever happens I hope you both work it out and are happy :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIm 18, I cant go...stuck in college and its too late you know?But he said he is staying and gonna try to get a job and go to school up here instead of moving. I asked lne of my best friends and he read what we said and it sounds like we never broke up just understood that the long distance relationship would be hard for us to do.
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reader, daniellexxxx +, writes (25 April 2012):
Hi.. Think you need to ask him if your together still and is it going to work long distance relationships can work but its going to be hard.
Just ask him what he wants to do sounds like he's confused and doesn't want to loose you but then again he wants to move away!
Can't you go with him?
Good luck
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