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writes:Hey guysSo .. my boyfriend of a year broke up with me month and a half ago. We completely stopped talking and seeing each other. He said, he needed time on his own, to think about his life and focuse on himself. I tried to understand and I do not contact him at all ... I tried going out w other people, having fun, just looking around whats out there ... but I just can't.I love my BF to death. To the smalles piece of my heart I love him. And I wish I knew he did not love me, but I know he does. I don't really undertstand why we broke up. Maybe I was a bitch ... maybe I just wasn't too happy lately with my own self .. and maybe thats what made him upset ... I have been told not to contact him, to leave him be, Not to see him etc. BUT I WANT HIM BACK ... how do I do this? How do I at least try to get him back? I never tried to get back with anyone before ... i don't know how this works. I dont know what to do ... I just feel little wierd about the whole "DOnt see each other dont talk to each other" .. because if I dont see him and talk to him .. than maybe I will forget about him and the same means for him .. But I dont want to forget him, I want him .. I want to spend my life next to this man, and I just don't know what to do!thank you
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reader, babygirl63 +, writes (3 October 2008):
I am going through the same thing. I was a FWB with a man for 4 yrs and he told me the same things your man told you. To leave him alone and not to contact him. It's been 3 months since everything has happened and outside of one letter asking him if what he said to me meant it was over I haven't contacted him at all. Is it easy? No it's hard as hell only because I still care very deeply for him. I keep myself as busy as I can but there are times where all the busyness in the world can't hide how I really feel. Do I believe that I will hear from him one day? Yes and No. All I can do is hope that one day I cross his mind and will call just to see how I am doing. Until then not much I can do but to continue to respect his wishes and leave him alone. one d ay
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reader, sappygirl +, writes (29 September 2008):
 I hate to tell you but sometimes you just have to accept that things are over and move on. As painful as it is, if one person doesn't want to be in a relationship there is nothing you can do. He asked you for his space, and you have to respect his wishes. The only thing is to hope that the time apart will make him realize that he loves you and give it another chance. Just because you want to spend the rest of your life with this man, doesn't mean he wants to spend the rest of his life with you. Nothing personal, that's just how things are sometime. Time will heal all wounds and you might meet a guy better than your ex. You never know. In the meantime, i suggest not obsessing over you ex any more and take this time to reflect what went wrong, and change it so that when you meet another great guy, you won't make the same mistakes. good luck
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