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*ustaGuy
writes:Hey,I know this is a typical question but her goes.I broke up with my ex 2 weeks ago, it was the day before she was to fly home for the summer holidays - we have just graduated from uni. The night before she was due to fly she told me she needed space and promised she there was no one else ( I 100% belive her), the summer is long - 2 months and we were only together for around 3. She said she isint ready for the commitment and just does'nt want to be with anyone. I respect this but what makes it difficult for me is how sudden it all seemed, it was only the day before that we were on the phone doing the romantic thing, and to make it worse she says this probably would'nt have happened if the summer had'nt arrived! She said she would send me a letter at some point - god knows saying what. She is quite insecure and asked often what i saw in her.So now she tells me not to contact her, really cold, saying she'll jus hang up if i try and ring her. Yes i know what your going to say - DONT CONTACT HER! but its unbearable i need to know what happened over those few hours (or maybe it was longer). I know her parents never approved of our relationship, perhaps they had a role in this, they have a lot of influence over her.I will see her again hopefully after summer, should i wait? I'm sure she has feelings for me, i dont want to be the annoying clingy guy, but then again i dont want her to think i've forgotten about her. Any advice would be appreciated.X
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reader, mesoreal  +, writes (10 July 2007):
 Yes, there is someone else who she feels is 'better' It is hard to face that she might feel that but haven't you somewhere in the past?
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reader, flower girl +, writes (10 July 2007):
 But she has made it clear to you not to contact her babe, and considering the way you feel about her do you really honestly think you could have a light hearted conversation with her?
I think you would be best to try and move on and if she contacts you then good but like i said i think you should respect her wishes, she will have more respect for you if you do that.
Take care.xx.
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reader, JustaGuy +, writes (10 July 2007):
JustaGuy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice,
I'm finding it hard to move on, i rarely find girls that i would consider having a relationship with so its very hard for me.
The thing is, how can she suddenly change her mind about me? We spoke about the distance thing before and it was not going to be a problem so i thought - we were only on the other end of a phone and its not permanant.
If i was able to keep a light hearted conversation should i ring her? It kills me that she can just forget about me like that!
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reader, flower girl +, writes (9 July 2007):
I think you should show her respect and do what she asks and not contact her, if she really wants you when she gets back from summer holidays if thats what you still want then try and pick up.
Hopefully after she has been this blunt with you though you will meet someone else in that time and have moved on.
Take care.xx.
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