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writes:My boyfriend and I broke up about a month and a half ago. In the beginning of the week we met up so i can get my closure. We talk, cried, yelled and hugged a lot. The hugs lasted long and when i tried to pull away he wouldn't really let me. He also put his head on my shoulder and nuzzled his nose into my neck while hugging. We dated for 7 yrs and we broke up because he felt like something was missing.I can't help but feel after our talk and the hugs that he is struggling with something. Like hes confused about life and is doubting everything. He wants to get out of his comfort zone so he can meet new people and make new friends.When i suggested we meet up he was reluctant about it and even told me he wasn't in love with me anymore. But while talking he kept saying how much he loves me and cares about me. He said he hopes i find some one that makes me happy.What does this all mean? Am I reading too much into it all?
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reader, Lizzybeth01 +, writes (20 December 2008):
 Hey Girl - I've recently gone through the same type situation. My ex and I dated for 5/6 years and were engaged for two.We broke up because of the same type thing. Since we broke up he's acted the same way as your ex - always calls, tells me how much he misses me, wants to hang out, that sort of thing...and then about a two months ago he even told me that he still loved me. We actually went out on a "date" to see how everything felt and ended up developing feelings for each other again. Crazy huh? Just wait - it gets better...but let me go through some other details first.
We were broken up for nine months - I went through alot in those months (alot of tears, alot of failed dates with guys ) and ended up seeing a therapist to help me "unconfuse" my life....and through all of the help and therapy I was able to become a better person that greater resembled the girl he meet all of those years ago and we discovered the old feelings that we once had felt.
I know that it doesn't work this way for all couples, but you have to think that you two were together for 7 years. Those feelings just don't go away (especially not in a month). Time is the only thing that fades feelings, and only time will be able to tell what the future for the two of you is.
I say that you play it cool for now - take some time apart. Learn from what has happend and then maybe (just maybe) after some time has passed you will be able to see clearly and so will he.
Here comes the crazy part of my relationship - I'm pregnant now! How exciting huh? When we broke up I thought it was the end of everything...I was devasted because I knew deep down in my heart that he was the guy I was mean't to marry - sure we have a flaws, we fight like crazy, but we're crazy about each other.
Good luck sweetie - and keep me posted!
"Never give up on the person that you can't go a day without thinking about"
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