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writes: I have recently split up from my partner of 5 1/2 years. I feel that it was going to happen at some point, but it was a great shock when it actually did happen. I was absolutly devestated. I think mainly because he instigated the break up.We have been split up just over a week now and we chose to remain friends as we have been together for such a long time. We have been out up town in a group, it wasnt planned it just sort of happened. Nothing happened we all chatted and had fun it was nice.I have had some great support through out this from my brothers fiance..whom i also class as a friend.She has given me advice such as stay away from him etc.But now i have been told that he has asked her to sleep with him etc, and i have seen the text message that he has sent. Well i questioned him over this all he says is well so? were nto together anymore so i havnt done anything wrong. Apparently my friend has said yes she would have sex with him but as far as i know they havnt, we were all out last night and that is when it all came to light. Well now i must say that i feel really shit about it all and the fact that he then came back to mine last night didnt help matters at all. I felt that i was in control of that situation.But after certain events today i dont i feel cheap and used. I hate him for things he has done but yet apart of me still loves him, what can i do.I feel like i have just made it a million times worse, i dont know exactly what is going on with the whole situatiuon.I mean i dont want him back i know that much, but i feel as though he is trying to upset me on purpose in doing the things he is doing.What can i do? Has anyone got any good advice for me?PLEASE!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2006): Dear Naughty Puppies,
Sounds like you got a good support base there from your Brother's fiancée. She sounds like she's given you a lot of comfort with what she's done.
I'd keep well away from him AND I WOULD DEFINATELY NOT BE BRINGING HIM BACK TO YOURS AGAIN FOR A 'OLD-TIME'S-SAKE SHAG' !!!!!!!!
Draw a line now and move on - you can do better!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2006): You are worth more than that creep can give you. If he can do that to your brothers girlfriend, who is a good friend of yours, then the past 5 1/2 years obviously didn't mean anything to him!
My advice to you is to move on NOW! You have wasted too much time, love and effort on this slime ball.
Go out and get a new life for yourself....life's too short.
All the best, Enjoy your new found freedom and have fun :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2006): This Andrew Heaton sounds a right twat. Keep away from him and tell your Brothers Fiancee to get well away from this creep. Change her phone number and tell him to piss off back to Wigan.
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reader, naughtypuppy +, writes (6 November 2006):
naughtypuppy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI would like to thank you all for your comments...
and well my head is still in a whirl wind about it all.
But i have made my mind up...whatever he does i dont want to know..i trust my brother with my life so i know that if he beleives his fiance then i will too..
its just hard for me to accept what a liar my ex bf was.
Thank you all so much...i really appriciate it.
Does anyone know any HOT MEtal Guy's to help me get over him?
lol
X
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reader, naughtypuppy +, writes (6 November 2006):
naughtypuppy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI would like to thank you all for your comments...
and well my head is still in a whirl wind about it all.
But i have made my mind up...whatever he does i dont want to know..i trust my brother with my life so i know that if he beleives his fiance then i will too..
its just hard for me to accept what a liar my ex bf was.
Thank you all so much...i really appriciate it.
Does anyone know any HOT MEtal Guy's to help me get over him?
lol
X
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reader, Fernikle +, writes (5 November 2006):
 Hello my flower, ohh what a mess! I know your situation quite well, you see, I am your sis-in-law's to be best friend. I can assure you my flower, she is deeply devoted to your brother, and sparkles everytime she speaks of him or to him. She thinks the world of you my sweetheart and has been so excited at the thought of becoming your sister too. I assure you, she has not been looking for your ex, whilst at Uni, it has been more of the case of him looking her out. We have ducked about and had to change our places that we hang-out to avoid him. She HAS NOT, and would not cross your brother or yourself with your ex. She thinks too highly of you both and loves you both dearly. Believe me, your ex is lying about things that he says have happend. You also have to consider is this ex worth loosing your close relationship with your brother? I know your brother has been worried about you, and he too loves you very much. If he had to choose though, just think about how the decision to choose between you his sister, and the woman he wants to spend the rest of his life with, would pressure him. It would make a wonderful guy really upset and with a position most awkward. NP, you've got so much going for you. Your sis-in-law to be speaks so highly of your personal traits as does your bruv. Kidda, friends with this spiteful, selfish tike will only drag you down. Think of what your s-i-l to be has been through herself, listen and lean upon her and your bruv; they both have the experience and compassion to be there for you through it. Create a new you, and don't look back, except to help others through similar experiences. Throw yourself into your studies (even though I know you won't feel like it) and get out there and be somebody you'd be proud to know.
I say this in love and I know from my experience the absolute agony you are going through.
Good luck and god bless
Mwah X
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2006): he should realise that he has already hurt people by what he has done, but why should he start by causing more bother by approaching your brothers fiancee. why doesnt this guy get the drift that he has ended it with you and should move on and not upset your brothers relationship.
Obviously he doesnt understand the meaning of love if he is trying to hurt somebody else mainly your brother and yourself in the process of splitting up with you, this guy needs a rain check ! before things get a whole lot worse for you and your family, back off from him if he ever loved you he wouldnt be getting involved with your family like this. if you really want to stay friends with him ask yourself why would he hit on you family if he was a friend knowing your still hurting from it all. this girl may be in the wrong if she said yes but is he just saying that to mess with your head ! why does he not realise he is in the wrong for trying to approach your sister in law, tell him hes wrong regardless of the situation with your friend sort that out later, but see that you dont want to be with someone who does this to you and your family and jeprodises your friendship with some one you say has been supportive to you .
good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2006): This sounds like a case of a very immature male trying to make himself feel more like a stud by seducing your female freinds so that you will hear about it. I would not be insulted, I would just be disgusted and move on....who knows why he is doing it, he must feel imasculated for some reason or he is simply a horn dog, you don't have time for this do you?
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reader, Helly +, writes (4 November 2006):
 Shoot him! Nah, just kidding. I dint quite get what you meant by your friend said yes to sleeping with him. Is that your brothers fiancee or just another friend? Either way, take it up with her. Its true, hes done nothing wrong, but if SHE really wants to help you, she wouldnt be playing with you like this. Besides, I reckon hes just trying to make you jealous. Just ignore him and eventually you'll get over him.
:)
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