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writes:So basically I met this girl in my college class and we hit it off and talked every class but nothing more then that because I was under the impression she had a boyfriend. Late in the semester I found out she didn't so I got her number and we went out for lunch befor our final exam.It went pretty good and she suggested we do it again but then I found out I was moving the next semester. I let her know and she said she was still keen to go on another date but she kept blowing me off.I ended up not moving and she seemed pretty happy about it and said we would have to find a day to go out. I called her a few times but she kept blowing me off again. So i stopped calling for a couple weeks and I saw her at the bar and completely ignored her. After that she called me and suggested a date again. I agreed but when it came time to setting it up she flaked out again.Then on Valentines day I got her a rose and she was very appreciative and suggested a date again. She also complained about how I didnt return her thank you message. So I called her a few days later and again she didn't return my call.Then today I saw her and I was trying to be funny so I told her to stop following me around. I think she missheard and thought I said I was following her around. So i think she was pretty creeped out.I guess my question is, is there anyway to fix that and secondly why does she keep suggesting dates and saying she'll call when its pretty clear she isn't interested? Reply to this Question
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reader, Lucy2118  +, writes (5 March 2008):
 Mayb try and call her about it, talk and say you didn't mean what you said, she'll probably find it funny, as you wanted to make sure that she knows you didn't mean it. I wouldn't worry. Take your time with her, if you have strong feelings for her or if not, then forget and move on.
Hope this helps.
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reader, Master86 +, writes (5 March 2008):
Master86 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your replies. They were very helpful. The thing that still bothers me is it's usually her who brings up us going out. She had tons of chances to get out of it. She blew me off befor we went for ouor semester break and she thought I was moving so she could have just left it at that. But she text me and said she was really going to miss me and that I better come to visit.
Another time I gave up on calling her for a few weeks and that could have been the end of it but again she text me and asked about a date. That quite a few times. Me thinking she was completely blowing me off and then her getting ahold of me way later and keeping up the idea of us going out. Thats what bothers me and I haven't fell this hard for a girl in years so thats why I'm having a hard time letting it go.
It may not matter anyways because I'm assuming she was pretty creeped out yesterday. she has every right to be. I'm not even sure that she is, but if I was her I would be. It was just a coincidence that I was sitting right outside her class but I could definitly see how it would seem like I was waiting for her or following her. i texted her after to try and make a joke out of it saying she should stop folloing me but she didnt reply which is not uncommon.
I'm not sure what to do now. If she doesn't like me I guess I could get over that eventually but I'd rather she not think I'm a huge creep or stalker. I'm worried that the harder I try to explain myself the creepier I would come off.
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reader, Lucy2118 +, writes (4 March 2008):
She may have other issues in her life that pop up without warning, so she arranges things but then has to cancel because something has coming up. If this is the case you need to be understanding as shes short of time. Have you tried speaking to her about it? I think this will be the ideal thing to do.
Hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2008): I think there is something missing, maybe set a date and see if she carrys it through, if not then dont bother again.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (4 March 2008):
 She does that because she wanted to leave the decision at the last minute. She cannot trust herself to make a quick decision.
The way she told you ,leave her some room for maneuver.
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