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writes:I was dating this guy we had been dating 5 months he moved in about the 3rd month we was dating. In June we was fighting constantly mainly me finding things to bitch about. We broke up Tuesday on our 5 month I wanted to break up. He's still staying with me he was supposed to leave today but he came up with an excuse to not leave. Anyway I've been very upset and every time I cry he holds me kisses me and wipes my tears aways. In June we was fighting non stop mainly me finding things to bitch about like him making messes etc. I found out last night that on June 29 he had sex with his ex. We had gotten in a big fight because I wanted him to go a birthday party and he didn't wanna go I got fed up I told him that I was done with him. I know I should be like get the f out of my house and I shouldn't want to work things out. He said that I drove him away by nagging and bitching all the time he said he started to resent me. A bunch of stuff happened with my ex I have a 2 year old daughter with him 2 weeks ago my ex kissed me I didn't exactly stop it. The next day we was texting and he told me he was still in love with me and I to told him I wasn't over him. I was planning to cheat on my current ex boyfriend with my daughters father. My current ex new something was up because of the way my daughters father and I act around each other ever since my current ex and I started dating he said that also began to push him away. Any how now my current ex's is the one he had sex with is claiming she's pregnant she told him that she had gotten sick around July 6 or the 9th and was having back pain being tired and having all the pregnancy symptoms. He said that there's no way she could be pregnant he pulled out. Any way she hasn't contacted him to talk about it she told his friends and they told him. A few days before she told him that she was pregnant she was watching my facebooj and trying to start stuff with me he told her to stop and leave me alone she got pissed and called me a b**** and then a day or two later she was saying she was pregnant. We both think she's faking it since she hasn't really talked to him that much about it. I really wanna work things out with us, but I don't know how to control my nagging and stuff. We both have made mistakes and done things we shouldn't have. I really love him and he says he loves both me and my daughter he was very upset last night while he was at work we spent almost all night on the phone he said all this stuff with ex saying she's pregant has gotten to him he was talking about how he just wanted to end it all by over dosing.. is this relationship fixable at all? How can we take steps in working things out?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2013): You are an irresponsible mess. You have a child, and your life is nothing but drama about several different guys. You moved someone in; after only three months. To top it off, your feelings are back and forth, and all over the place, about him.
Your daughter deserves a better environment. You bring in some guy who fights with you, exposing a two-year old child to the noise and confusion of your fighting.
You need to consider getting an education; either college or a career school; so you can support yourself, and be a good mother to your child. All you need from a man right now is child-support. You're too immature to handle a relationship right now.
Is your ex current on his child-support payments? All he wants from you is occasional sex. He'll play you, if he thinks it will take the pressure off. He may have another kid on the way.
Otherwise; he'd be living with you helping to support and raise your toddler.
He doesn't have to man-up to any responsibility; because he knows all he has to do is butter you up, and go back to his other girlfriend. Who probably isn't faking a pregnancy.
I am concerned for both you and your daughter. You're just a child with a child, and too much is going on for the two of you to deal with.
Put her first, and get your life in order, Missy!
Your ridiculous "soap opera" of a life is going to eventually alert the local Department of Child Services. Your family and neighbors aren't going to sit by, and watch all this chaos going on around a helpless kid.
The only way to fix the relationship is to kick that loser out of your house.
Focus on being a mother. You brought her into this world. Now grow up and be a woman.
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