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writes: My boyfriend and I have been together for about three years and we live together with friends. We are very much in love, and even though we are both in our mid twenties our sex life is nothing to be envious of. This is almost entirely down to me, I have insecurities and do not feel sexy. Sometimes I feel like we have become too close, too much like friends, there is no mystery and therefore I don't feel perceived as sexy by him. This is just one of our problems, the other (and main one) is the fact that although we are compatible in many ways (our lifestyles, opinions, etc.) We always end up arguing about minor issues. It seems that we are bickering constantly - I know that it is mainly down to stress but it worries me that he will end up leaving because of the constant arguing. I feel that I do a lot in the way of changing myself for him (it is often me who apologises, even if I don't feel I was wrong). Sometimes I wish he would make the effort and not always assume that I'm the one who is argumentative as it takes two to tango. Sorry this is so long - but is this worth saving? I really do love him and would feel lost without him but should I just cut my losses now rather than suffer more later?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2006): Ive found that arguing has killed all my relationships- because others wont admit to fault and I usualy do( for thier mistakes!) if he woudl relaly love you he would see it is a minor thing and be the first one to say it is silly, but it seems like he is unwilling to adjust or help eachother out- that is a sign that no company is better than bad company. You may find freedom away from him9 and who knows he may just be better off as a friend- especially if you cant feel sexy around him) Not to encourage a breakup or anything.. but I have found myself to be more free when Im not around stubborn and inattentive/ ignorant or selfish people. Think through all the scenarios and the end results projected but mostly search yourself about how you feel about him, the situation, etc. And ask around some more with perspectives on the situation. I hope this helps!
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reader, smithapatel +, writes (11 October 2006):
u will get to know the answer yourself if this bickering goes on. trying to change is good but make sure he is really worth it.if u two really love each other then he must be feelng the same too so just take it easy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2006): HMM, well, when men act like this, then it could mean he's having an affair.
Not accusing him of anything, but maybe you should hav a private chat.
You take it from there!
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