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writes:I was in a relationship with another woman for about one year. we just recently broke up but are talking about patching things up. We dated casually for a few months, then decided to make it official. During the dating, we never talked about being exclusive. It didnt seem like a big deal.back ground info: my (now ex just going to call her gf) gf and her best friend started to date. they were friends for a few years then started to date. they broke up and stayed very close friends. as soon as my gf and i started to date, her best friend started to talk act jealous and told her she wanted her back. My gf stayed with me and that was that.we broke up for a day a while ago, and she went to hang out with her ex/best friend. the next day she lied to me about it and i found out. through out relationship her ex has been a constant issue simply because shes always around and it makes me uncomfortable. trust was broken. We got back together and everything was good. about a year later we break up for the same reason. i know, its really my fault. my gf tried to make it easier for me by not hanging with her so much. this couldn't be completely avoided because they had the same friend group, but still she had lied to me before. anyways. during this time we broke up, she met someone on an dating app, exchanged numbers and met at a bar with them. she didnt tell me this. She calls me in the middle of the night crying because she kissed someone else. before this happened, we decided the night after the bar incident we would talk. anyways, we did talk and she did not mention any of the above except the kiss. we decided to patch things up but she didnt tell me about the entire situation. so basically it was all a lie. later i found out about the dating app, the girl and the entire situation. she tried to lie about it. still caught her. she said she was sorry and did the whole ill never do it again thing. i dont know what to do. i understand that she didnt want to hurt me but some disclosure would have been nice. weve been together a little over a year and its hard to just let that go. im afraid i wont be able to trust her again. shes a good person despite the lies and i truly used to believe she always had her best intentions. i dont know. helpppp!
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reader, DragonMan  +, writes (10 February 2014):
 Greetings,This situation sounds rather simple form my point of view, the outcome is leave.When a relationship acts like a bungee jump then it isn't meant to hold.Let me explain, I try very hard to see things from both sides but in this case the only two sides I see are what you feel and what you've done. You want to forgive her but at the same time you are angry with her actions. Such conflict will only spill into everything else in life, even to the point of fabricating allegations if you continue to put yourself under this strain of getting together and splitting up.Walk away and don't be so willing to run back to her
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