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writes:So... here is the deal before I ask my question;I have been with my boyfriend for only a month now and I feel like I am becomming more attached to him than he is to me, well I did feel that way up until last night.You see, we were sitting there having a conversation about how drunk I was a couple of night prior to that (classy, I know). He was telling me how the things I was saying were kind of scaring him, which of course made me wonder what I had said! I guess I was just trying to push him away and telling him that we should break up now rather than later when it will hurt more.Anyway, long story short he told me that he felt as though he was falling for me very fast until the other night when that stuff went down. My question is, is there anything I can do to right this wrong? Is there any way I can get things back on the track they were on? We are still together, I'm just kind of walking on thin ice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2008): It does sound like you need to talk to him. I agree with everyone else, what else can you do. You can't change the past, you can't leave him, he can't change his feelings. If you find the advice unsuitable, then maybe you could post a reply about the things you'd like to hear said.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2008): True. Very true.
I've always said communication is the key.
And it usually is. What else do you want me to say - because quite honestly what else can you do?! Its a very difficult and awkward situation I give you that. You can't assume his feelings. Your on this site asking the question because you don't want to go along with them.
See where communication gets you and come back.
Sorry if I sounded angry. I know it angers people when they say 'What else do you want me to do/say?!' But seriously, what else can you do?!
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reader, hayhay123 +, writes (14 July 2008):
hayhay123 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice although, it seemed kind of generic to me. You know, like a stock answer to a love-related problem. The only way to fix this is by communicating? Well, it's a given that communication is key when it comes to having a healthy relationship, but it doesn't fix every problem.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2008): I didn't quite understand it at first, but now I do the only way I can see you fixing this is by communicating. I don't think he's falling for you 'very fast' I think because you might've said stuff about breaking up, that he thought I don't want to loose her and all hell kicked in.
I think you should basically explain to him your true intentions and feelings and correct what was said into what is true.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2008): Hey, it seems obvious that the both of you are on the same page when it comes to your feelings, why don't you have a honest conversation and tell him how you really feel, even if he doesn't feel the same then at least you have taken it of your chest and you won't live with the feeling of regret about what if's, maybe this conversation may bring you to closer and take your relationship to a new level.
explain to him what you thought you said while you were drunk and then give him an explanation as to why you tried pushing him away.
I hope it all works out for you
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