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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi me and my gr have been together just over a year and we have been talking about that fact we are ready to have sex, we are both old enough btw. i live with her(long story) so its kind if hard to get a chance to try it but next weekend her parents will be out for a night and we have decided that night will be the night. We have got contraception sorted and shes even had the injection just in case and she knows we can stop at any time. Well i have some questions some are about the loosing our virginity and other just about sex in general for other times when we are moe into it.Ok these are some questions about loosing our virginity:1) Shes always been afraid of it so how can i help her to relax more?2) we are both new to this and have never done ahything sexual other than make out so basically how do we do it?3) I know it will hurt her and i'm gonna do everthing i can do decrease the pain as much as possible but will it also hurt me?4) we have decided to go for me being on top as she doesn't want to be on top so is there any tips u cud give me with that to let her control abit more?5) she's always been a bit embarrassed about what she looks like,she hasnt got the biggest boobs but that really doesn't bother me, how can i get her to be more confident about herself and show her i love her the way she is?6) i'm really afraid of hurting her any tips?Ok and heres just some questions that i've always wondered about:1) when your gf orgasms can you feel it when your inside her?2) this is basically the exact opposite of that question but if you aren't wearing a condom do girls know when you have come in them and do they normally like it?3) How will i know when i find my gf's g-spot?4) What is it about sex that girls generally enjoy? and how does it feel to them to have their partner inside them?sorry about these questions but id rather ask now and get it right really. cheers for taking the time to read this hope you can help.
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reader, sexi  +, writes (25 September 2007):
 Hi
1.) She should not be worried about the pain, as this will cause her to be tense.Get loads of info so that you know what you are doing and remember it is both your first time so it is okay to be shy and not be perfect.
2.)As i said before, read up on the topic. Look at pictures, and get info.You can also look up on the internet.
3.)Im not sure about that.It is possible that you may experience some discomfort as you are going to having sex with your gf whos is a virgin as well.
4.)As you get going you would get in a rythym so you can let her control that.
5.)Just tell her. Im sure in your eyes she is the most beautiful person you have seen. Just let her know thw way you feel.
6.)Just be slow and gentle. You should also have lots of foreplay before you do the deed.
The rest is answered correctly by leaane.od
most of all,Just enjoy yourself
Regards,mail me if you wanna talk
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female
reader, leanne.od +, writes (24 September 2007):
 okay.......
to help your girlfriend relax, you need to be relaxed. she needs to be reassured that this isn't going to be unbareable pain, it's not always painful, my first time wasn't. the more relaxed and comfortable you are, the less it will hurt because the muscles in her cirvix will be relaxed.
she needs to be lubricated otherwise entering her will be virtually impossible and cause her pain, there are a few ways of doing this but it depends what you are and are not comfortable with doing.
i'm not a male so i don't know if the initial first time will hurt you but i do know that once you're inside her, as long as you're on top, you control the movements so you'll be able prevent yourself from bending it but if she decides to go on top, she may not know what hurts you so you need to communicate. and she will naturally move in a way that suits her so she'll be s equally in control anyway.
confidence is a bit tricky because you can't make someone be happy with themselves. instead of telling her you love her the way she is, tell her shes sexy, gorgeous, and is she's not confident, defo lights off!!
do not cum inside of her. yes some can feel it but it's not worth trying it incase you inpregnate her and then you'll be sorry, even if she is on the injection, better to be safe then to be sorry.
you will know when you find her g spot, but don't think you'll find it on your first go, it could take a long time to find it, but she'll know when you have. and girls enjoy the closeness of having their bf inside them, it's the most intimate thing that could happen and the feeling is a mixture of happiness and excitement, mixed together you get an explosion.
best of luck!! (and enjoy it, don't worry to much!)
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