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anonymous
writes:Hi,Me and my girlfriend are on a break,what should I do to show her that I love her more than anything?She says that she needs space and some time apart from eachother and says that I must not see it as a bad thing,but I don't know what to think and how she feels.I was jealous of her going out with her friends,I was drunk and stupid and was an idiot,I trust her with my life.What can I do and how much time should I give her?I already told her how I feel and she has not responded.Thank you,Erich
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reader, little_laura0  +, writes (29 December 2009):
I know its hard, but it would be best if u don't see or talk to her for at least a week, unless she contacts u. If she does contact u, try to be calm and accepting. Dont show emotion, but dont be a robot. try to sound friendly.
Untill then, focus on other things in ur life and try to stay clear of things that remind u of her. The more u push to see and talk to her the more she will run away. This can ultimatly ruin ur chances of mending things. If u do leave her alone, she will wonder why u arent chasing her and start to miss u. She knows how u feel so the ball is in her court. Let her come to u. hope this helps
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2009): Not all "breaks" are the same.
Is it okay to date other people? Is it okay to have sex with others? Do you or she intend to go out looking for it or not?
Do you both assume that this is temporary and you will probably be getting back together in a short time? Or is that just a "maybe"? Is she or you pretending there will be a reunion later on because it's easier than facing the truth of a permanent break up?
Make agreements about this questions before the break. Do it out loud in clear spoken words. DO NOT automatically assume she feels the same way you do about any of this stuff. (If she felt the same way you do about everything in the relationship then she would probably not be asking for a break in the first place.)
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2009): She told you what she wants already.
I know its hard because you feel so strongly about her but if you really want her to be happy then give her the time to think.
If Also learn from your mistake and dont smother her again
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reader, Hannah101 +, writes (29 December 2009):
Well how long were you with her for 1 and there's not much you can do really maybe she wants you to stop being possesive yes you love and you want to be with her 24 7 but women need there own space just like men do if you under stand or she just don't want to be with you you need to sit her down and get the anwser evan if she doesn't want to talk you have to tell her that you need to know your obvisiouly confused with why she's done this so you need to find out good look and I hope my advice helps
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2009): You don't give us much info. I say give her space and let go of your jealousy. If you can do this, then maybe she will get back with you. That maybe why she said not to see it as a bad thing.
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