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writes: Hi I've been together with my boyfriend for four years we own a house together and we are trying to sell it we were hoping it would help our relationship as the money stress would not be there but I feel like it won't change anything. I feel bored and like there just isn't anything there anymore, we hardly have sex or even kiss and when we do I don't really want to. I have felt this way for a while and I don't know why I feel this way when he is such a great guy and treats me well but I just feel as though I'm not doing him any good being with him. Please help i dont know what to do and I don't wanna hurt him but I feel as though it's time to break up and go our separate ways. He is already working away and I don't see him much which makes us grow even further apart. I don't wanna end on bad terms as we still have a house.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (27 September 2011):
You just be straight with him and tell him you want to finish things. Tell him the reasons why and explain to him why you feel it is not working. Just be honest with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have talked to him about it and nothing seems to change and I want to know if I was to break up how do you do it when you have been dating for four years
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2011): no one can tell you whether you should stay and work it out or follow through with a break up.
could your relationship be saved if you worked at it? Maybe. Does it mean you "should"? No, it doesn't.
if you feel that you want to break up, then you should break up.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (27 September 2011):
The best thing in a relationship is communication. So it is time to be brave and tell him how you are feeling. That is the key to sorting out problems and with a few simple changes things may change for the better. You are feeling bored in the relationship at the moment but if he knew how you were feeling then maybe he could try and work harder and make more of an effort to put the spark back in. If not well at least then you can part ways knowing that you both tried to solve things. So don't delay just meet up with him when you can and tell him how you have been feeling and talk things over.
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