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writes:I recently emigrated from the UK to the other side of the world. Back in the UK I had become very close to a girl, who became my best mate. We clearly had a "thing" going on and people would often mistake us for boyfriend and girlfriend. We developed really strong feelings for each other, spending most days together and just hanging out with each other.Saying goodbye at the airport was horrible, and there were tears on both sides. Promptly followed by me having a few large beers before getting on the plane!Since moving away I have been keeping in contact with her using Facebook, SMS, MSN and ringing her when she's home.We've discussed what was happening back in the UK between us and both agreed that there was definately something there, and the only thing that stopped us being together fully was because I was leaving the country.Now my problem is that this is eating me up inside. I really like the girl, in fact I have told her that I love her - a big thing for me. She has also told me that she loves me, and that she "needs" to see me, and that she gets upset without me there. I miss her like crazy, and it's really getting me down. I feel that I have lost my soulmate and everytime I speak to her my heart breaks because realistically we can't be together, 24hours apart by plane.I don't know what to do because it's eating me up. Tonight has been full of tears, and horrible thoughts like "should I just cut all ties and not speak to her ever again" which is something I don't want to do - it just hurts so much!I have discussed it with a few of my friends back in the UK and they are stumped with it too. She is supposed to be coming to see me over here soon, money situation pending! But I am worried that if I see her again then my heart is going to break. I already feel bad enough and I've only had to say goodbye once!I've never felt so strongly for someone, not even a member of my own family and I don't know if I am being silly by staying over here and stopping the relationship or silly for even contemplating going back to the UK for her.Please help me!! Not only do I feel that I have lost a girl I have strong feelings for, but also my best/soul mate! I feel as though part of me is missing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk, situation update. She came over and things escalated to the next level. For the time she was here we acted like boyfriend and girlfriend, and has sex a few times.
She is now back in the UK and I feel like I am missing part of me. I don't know what to do about us and it is tearing me up.
Part of me wants to go back to the UK and be with her, but sensibly I have to stay here in Aus until I am granted permanent residency - which is December 2009 at the earliest.
I still speak to her every day and I know she is feeling the same way, however I don't think she could move here because she would miss her friends and family too much.
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reader, Tigger3165  +, writes (12 July 2008):
 saying goodbye is never easy... but knowing that she loves you, and is waiting for you, as well as the fact that she wants to make the effort to come see you should be very comforting. If you love this person so much, hold on to her... don't give that up... love can make it through anything, and in the future, when you two can be together, all the tears and heartache will have been worth it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2008): you have a chance at true love and your gonna give it up? dont give it up go for it you have no idea the pain you will feel if you do give it up. she is your destiny and in a world with not enough good love is a very rare fortune. dont mistake your sadness for bad but for good go get your miss right and live happily ever after please.she is in love and eager to see you just as you are in love and eager to see her dont pass it up for as soon as you look into her eyes you will know what to do :) good luck
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