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30-35,
*ust a Girl...
writes:Hey,, ive been with my boyfriend now for 3 months and have already had our fair share of problems. The thing is that we are both so insecure with ourselves that its nearly bloody impossible to keep our relationship goin. Our annerversay was this saturday gone and lets just say it was more than a little disappointing. it started bad and ended even worse, with him in tears and me miserable. Im starting to wonder maybe we are meant to just be friends, i didnt think its what i want but if its already this hard now, i cant see it getting any better...anyone got any advice for sum1 who is totally lost??
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2007): I am in a similar situation. Actually the problems that came from our insecurities became very apparent in our third month. It has been a year now and the problems are just as bad as they were in the beginning. There are times where I feel we are more sticking it out rather than enjoying our time together. And thats just it -are you enjoying your time together? Can you foresee resentment building between the two of you after each argument? Can the resentment be resolved? If so, it is probably best to be friends rather than lovers. Not sound cliche but you have to be secure within yourself to have a secure relationship. There are exceptions where one secure partner can balance the other one out.. but its seems you have the opposite relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2007): I dont know exactly what it is you two are so insecure about but i do know that your not alone. Everyone is insecure about somthing, take me for instance, the truth is Im insecure about my body and I was honest and told my boyfriend exactly how I felt, and ya know what I found out? Hes insecure about his too!! He taught me that the great thing about life is that you can change anything, you can be anything and i realized that he was right. So every day we trained and workout togeather, so now not only are we fit but we are closer than ever
Maybe you should tell each other all your insecurities and then help each other and develope strategies to over come them.
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