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*oulou1980
writes:Hi I have been with my partner for 3 years. He is caring and i love him-but dont think im in love with him.About 4 months ago i met some1 else in a club.Nothing happened between us we were just dancing and having a laugh. A couple of weeks later i saw him again and we just instantly went and hugged each other-like we have known each other all our lives-Again nothing happened.In the end a few weeks later we did bump in2 each other and go for a drink-and kissed,i have seen him a few times since and we chat daily on the phone and email-And i swear i am in love with this man.Problem is he as also got a partner-who he says he wants 2 leave but i said I dont want him 2 leave for me as he as been with her a long time. He also says he loves his girlfriend but not in love with her.We tell each other we love each other all the time and i swear i have never felt any thing like this about any1 in my life im sure he is the one for me.We dont want 2 hurt out partners by keep going behind their backs but do u think this is going 2 work for us.p.s he is also very sweet and said that if i decide 2 finish it i have 2 promise we will stay friends ans he cant bear not 2 have me in his life. Reply to this Question
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reader, loulou1980 +, writes (27 February 2007):
loulou1980 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks so much for replying. I really feel like this is love for me as even when i got with my current partner i didnt feel this way. We have so much in common 2 and evebn share the same birthdays! weird or what!
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reader, Azzazal +, writes (26 February 2007):
This could be cold feet on your part, 3/7 year itch kind of thing.
I have been in the same situation in my past. Starting to drift as I was going out "solo". I met "someone", it was lust at first sight..
Much heart achelater I ended up alone, not by choice but by the power of the years together, £ years is alot to chuck away on a dance partner in a night club..
Call me mad!! but this will fizzle, you are with your man for a reason, you may have lost them, at the moment.
Thing is? how do you get them back.
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reader, Azzazal +, writes (26 February 2007):
This could be cold feet on your part, 3/7 year itch kind of thing.
I have been in the same situation in my past. Starting to drift as I was going out "solo". I met "someone", it was lust at first sight..
Much heart achelater I ended up alone, not by choice but by the power of the years together, £ years is alot to chuck away on a dance partner in a night club..
Call me mad!! but this will fizzle, you are with your man for a reason, you may have lost them, at the moment.
Thing is? how do you get them back.
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reader, nicola79 +, writes (26 February 2007):
 You poor things, If you love eachother like you say you do then you have to get it together, I understand that you both have partners whom you love but if you are not in love with them you have to make that break im affraid.
I think the worst thing in life is to regret something that you could have done but didnt. If you love and are in love with this bloke and he feels the same then please do something. Its unfair on your partners to stay with them for the wrong reasons flower,and they both could be free to do as they like if you just tell them you are not in love with them anymore.
Dont string them along,tell them then you can move on with your lifes sweety.
I really do hope everything works out for you and I do understand how much this must be hurting you but you only live once.
Please keep me posted. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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