A
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anonymous
writes:Dear CupidI have recently been contacted by a male friend who I haven't seen for many years, through an Internet Friends website. I only found out a couple of months ago from my Mother that he had very strong feelings for me all those years ago and rang my Mother to ask her to persaude me not to get married. I was crazy about him but I did not think he felt that way about me so just treated him as a friend.Neither of us was ever free at the same time so the chance didn't ever arise. We are both married but have met up and since discussed all of this. The love we had for each other then is stronger than ever now,especially now we are open about everything. Neither of us feel the same about our partners as we do for each other but are very aware of not wanting to hurt the other partner. We are both middle class professionals with good lives. Where do we go from here? It's agony for both of us. Help. Reply to this Question
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (16 April 2008):
 Hi,
The last poster gave you a very simple answer, and it was totally correct. If this guy means so much to you, then the only thing is to come clean get divorced and then be together. If only it was that simple though eh?. You will cause massive amounts of hurt to your family's, but in time they will get over it. The real answer is "DO YOU LOVE HIM ENOUGH TO GIVE UP EVERYTHING". Because for a while that maybe what you would have to do.
I am speaking from experience here, and I never ever regret what I gave up. And I would do it again to be with the man I love.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (16 April 2008):
 Give it sometime to make sure that your mutual feelings are
genuine and lasting and not just some mutual physical or sexual attractions.
If it lasts, then you should consult your respective partners to end your marriage.
It is not fair to both of you to be stuck in an unhappy marriage.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2008): Well if you don't feel the same about your partners why don't you both get divorced then you can be together.
Good luck
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