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writes: I have been married for 16 years and have 2 children we both had an affair which was a cry for help and tried to patch our marriage but it is very hard to forgive but are for the sake of the kids. I was having another affair with a married man who I liked on and off for 15 months until last week when his wife was away on holiday and he phoned me on the Friday to say he would be working Sunday if I wanted to see him. So I kept my Sunday free and waited for him to ring me but he didnt, so I texted him stating that he obviously wasnt working and to text me anytime that day. But he didnt and the next day was a bank holiday and he texedt me on the way to work Tuesday saying 'hello sweetheart' and that his throat was better. (As I asked him on the text Sunday regarding his throat so he obviously read it.) I then sent him a text message back saying that he was a nasty horrible pig by not replying on Sunday and I did not hear from him since - this has been over a week now. I since sent him a text message stating that he has no feelings and no respect but again no reply I then sent a 2nd text asking him to please not ignore my text and I just wanted a reply as to why he chose to ignore me on sunday so that I can move on and after the explanation I will not bother him again. Again no reply so after a week, which is today, I sent him the last text to say that it is his choice 2 ignore me and it is self expanatory that he does not want to bother so I have drawn a line under the whole mess and no hard feelings with an ex. Again no reply. I did really like this guy and know that it is a no go area as he is married and the relationship is purely sex as we do nothing else but I sometimes need to know what on earth is going on in his head by ignoring and not facing the facts. I've given up now as I will be making an utter fool of myself and I just wanted to any answers as to why he is just ignoring when he has had ample opportunity if he does not want to bother to say so on numerous occasions. By the way we are acting like 15 year olds and we are in our forties, sad I know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2006): Thank god HE wanted to not continue cheating with you! Didn't you consider his WIFE? Or your husband? Or your children? That your husband once had an affair is no excuse for you to do the same.
If you are unhappy in your marriage, either work on it, or get out. This kind of behavior hurts everyone involved, is shoddy and unethical.
If you want to find another man, do the decent thing, get divorced and then pick on someone who is free!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2006): You don't seem to realise that what you do hurts people. You deserve to be dropped by this man, he's probably trying to save his marriage and has promised to stop the contact with you.Your poor husband, he deserves better. You need to grow up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2006): He doesn't belong to you so let it go and work on your marriage. He does not owe you an explanation even though you think you deserve one. He was a looking for a way to end this affair and the insulting text message that you sent him was his que. Quit dwelling and move on.
-J
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