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writes:Dear whoever is reading this.This is hard for me because usually i advice people but i am blind to my own problem. or to the sollution anyway. I know i am in love and i know the person i love loves me too. i mean even when we are asleep if someone of us doesnt feel ok the other one miles away will feel it. he knows when i cry and i feel it when he is sad. but as i said we are miles away. not only that but we are of different religious up bringings and my parents wont agree to us getting married.we have tried to come to terms with it but it kills us. and now we are both in differnt countries i thought it would be easier but it is not now for three months i cry myself to sleep and he calls me telling me to stop crying cos it gives him bad headaches!!!! what hurts the most is i dont know when we may go back to our country again and i dont know how i can get him here to england especially without my parents knowing i need a solution an answer pleaseif anyone can help please advise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2006): Isn't fundamental religion so great? If not political wars that separate entire nations, then it's the petty politics of inter-family life.
Well, if religion plays such a massive part of your life, then continue to worship your books, churches/temples, and such. If religion is only a moderate philosophy to you, then hey, I really suggest you follow your heart and go for what life is about, rather than what the textbook religion declares. Your parents say they will never agree to it. I don't see you getting married and having children with your mom and your dad. [rubs chin] Hmmmmm... Sure, they are probably super important to you, but that's the thing. What are you WILLING to do about it?
There's always a choice. It is whether you take it or not.
1) move out, live your own life, religion should be a guideline, and not something that you revolve your life around
2) stay at home forever and preach to your lord and savior, find someone who is of the same religion, live happily ever after, the end
3) if your love is really that strong for each other, then wait it out, see if it's really that strong, then if time come and go, you can in the meantime work towards being together somehow
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reader, 9728878 +, writes (1 October 2006):
 hey
wow i neva taught der was another person in the world with da same prob as meh its not that my boyfriend is 1 mile away but actually my boyfriend is more den 1 mile away u wanna no how far we r? wel he lives in america and i live in newzealand imagine that jus like u i cry myself 2 bed i mis him alot and my parents wont let me talk to him on da phone cuz hes not catholic and i am. I think tat if u beg ur parents nd tel dem how u feel bout ur boyfriend dey might understand if they really love u dey wil let u guys get married or if they are like my parents too strict then i gues u gotta keep ur relationship in secret lie 2 ur parents nd tel dem tat u broke up wif ur boyfriend and email or talk 2 eash other in secret if u realationship is really strong mayb wen ur parents think u r ready 2 get married u can some how convience dem to get u married 2 ur boyfriend or may be if its fien with your boyfriend you can make him change into teh same religion as u sry if my advice dosent help im just like u
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