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writes: Im so lost. My partner and I have been together going on 5 years now. I love her so deeply I find it hard to think of liveing without her and our son. We are lesbians and yes I say our son as we have been together since he was 13 months old and have taken a joint stance in raising him. Everyday we wake up go to work and come home. There is no none nada sex life she refuses to look at me like that anymore and when I try and approach the subject she says she has no sexual desire. She is always iratable not knowing from one min to the next if she is going to just ignore me or yell at me or want massages and scratches with no reciprication and certinanly no sexual advances included there in. If I do mention sex or attempt to make a move she falls back to the same old I don't want to im not horney stop you are making me angy response. She says sex is not a necessity. We no longer talk about anything or laugh or joke about much of anything except oh that comercial was funny etc or man my day at work sucked because of this that and something else. Everyday it is the same thing as far as actions go we come home she usually cooks or we get something pre made, we eat, and she sits and watchs television or plays solitare on the pc. I feel like im usefull as a monatery partner someone whom she can always rely on to help make sure bills are paid and our son has food a baby sitter for after school and a roof over his head and thats all im good for. I feel as if I were to dissappear and send a portion of my check to her once a month then she wouldn't care if I was living or not. My heart breaks every time I remember how much fun we used to have, how loving we used to be how she looked when I would make her come. I just want to kill myself and let her have the insurance and live the rest of her life without me as I feel she wants because I can't bear to live without her even if she does treat me like im nothing now. What can I do?
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reader, RedsMnM +, writes (16 January 2007):
RedsMnM is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI took your advice and confronted her again the answer I got was well how can I give you an answer as to what is wrong if I don't even know myself what is wrong. She says she just has no desire and doesn't know why?????
What more can I do? I have explained that it is important to me and that I do want her and that i am frustrated.
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reader, CarrieMagdelene  +, writes (15 January 2007):
 Good question! Alas, time for the answer even I hate...Eeeek! Dun dun dunnnnnnnnnnnn: You have to ask her what's up. *thunder cracks, a wolf howls, and a sheep bleats*
I know it'll be hard...It's hard confronting you partner about anything like this, because it's frightening to not know what you're going to get. It's like one of those cheap grab bags at super markets. You know there's the dreaded green lollypop, but you also know there's that peice of yummy chewing gum in there too, mixed in with all other candies...You don't ever know what you're going to get! If you're concerned with her happiness, this is by far the best strategy...If you wait for her to come to you with her problems, it could be worse than now...And there may even be nothing wrong, so it's a great idea to get it all of your chests and move foreward! Good luck, and enjoy your life, woooo! -Carrie
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