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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I was with my BF for 2 and half years. I met him when I was 19, he was my very first true love and his. For the past 6 + months we were drifting apart, hardly ever making love even kissing or cuddling like we used to. For the past 2 months we argued a lot and used to bicker about small things, he used to put me down, but all I wanted was his love back. If he did not show love, I could not because I used to be always depressed. On Monday, we had a long chat and I told him that things are just not working and maybe we should have a little break to see how he really feels about me. He agreed with everything and was not reluctant at all. He told me he does not like me anymore and I get on his nerves etc... but he still loves me. Now, we have not spoken/seen each other since then.I tried phoning/texting him and he wont even reply.This is not like him,as in the past he has never ever ignored me and we have never been apart for so long,he would normally talk to me or he would be very upset/hurt. The thing is i'm feeling extremely lonely and depressed ,I have found comfort in another guy who is a friend, who has really fallen for me,and we get along so well,he treats me so good it is unreal and I know I could be happy with him, but I don't want to be on the rebound. Deep down i'm still very much in love my BF and I dont feel right without him even though we dont get along anymore. I hope we can sort things out thats why I have not told the other guy that I want to be with him even though I do like him. What shall I do? why is my BF acting like this and acting so distant, It just is not like him, he has never behaved like this ever. What if he was cheating on me, thats why we were not getting a long, what if he has found someone else?Please help, Im very upset!
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reader, Jmo  +, writes (7 March 2008):
 Maybe it's time to move on and explore the possibility that you could get a great thing going with this friend. And if you do, be completely honest with him (I mean he was your friend, right, he should understand) regarding your vulnerable state and how you still have feelings for you ex and don't want to be "rebound girl". Regarding your bf/ex, you should stop blowing up his phone and give him the chance to let him miss you. Only then will you know if things could truly work out. But in the meantime, don't put your life on hold, you'll only end up hurting yourself. I hope everything works out.-Jmo
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