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anonymous
writes:Me and my husband have been married for 6 years and within those years, we always had arguement about money and support he was not giving me and to the birth of my baby daughter and other women. A year ago, he had affair, forgave him, but he left our home, cos of my constant mistrust of him and he did not change, we kept on being husband and wife, but not together in the same house. Last year he had another affair and this time the woman became pregnant, which he told me this year, again forgave him cos he was sorry for what he had done and said he would change but, we still live apart. This year the baby was born and it seems, his time revolves around the child and the girl, leaving me and my child pushed to the side. Then he started to change, being more helpful and supportive. But now i find out that there is something still goin on with the woman and that he has not told her that we are still together. This is doin my head and i dont know what to do, i love him because he was my first love and first sexual intimacy. I am confuse of what to do and mostly i feel sorry for my daughter cos now she will never have that contact with her father, due to the baby. He say he loves me and dont want to leave me and protect me from what he is doing out there or is he, i just dont know, i need advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2008): What are you teaching your daughter? Think about it.....
Also, ask yourself this question, when you were growing up, did you dream of a man that cheated on you constantly, had no regards for your feelings and would eventually ignore you after making another family whilst being married to you?
If you did, stick around.
If you dreamt of more, move on love because YOU are worth more than that and your daughter deseves a strong, postive female role model.
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reader, mzthay  +, writes (8 November 2008):
please dont be naive...pack your bags and leave, find a divorce attorney-
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reader, sappygirl +, writes (3 November 2008):
 You need to let this loser go, and move on with your life.
He does not respect you and that is why he is treating you like this. It's hard because he is your first love, but you have to know that there are better men who will love you the way you deserve to be love.
Go find a lawyer, get a divorce and make him pay child support. it will be hard, but you will see one day that being without him is the best thing you've done for yourself. You don't need him. Don't stay with him, and don't put up with this crap. Take back control of your life and stop waiting for him to come around. He's gone
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