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writes:Becoming a parent has made me think about this a lot. My parents live next to a primary school. They used to make me walk to school. Nobody does this any more. even if you live close. So I was an easy target. These two brothers would verbally abuse me everyday because I had short hair. And threatened to bash me up everyday. The school refused to do anything- they didn't care because it was outside of their property. My mum complained to their parents but their parents did nothing. My schools suggestions didn't work. My parents gave up. NOT even one parent picking their kids up ever said anything about the abuse. I still resent my parents for giving up. I wish I'd gone to the tv stations to complain. I still resent my parents for this. What to do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2013): Why don't you save your resentment and anger at the bullies and their parents? Your parents tried but sounds like their hands were tied. Hindsight is always 20/20 and your parents didn't have that benefit at the time. You said nobody makes their kids walk to school anymore, but your parents did and this sounds a bit accusatory. But back then everyone made their kids walk to school, so it isn't fair to accuse your parents of doing wrong of making you walk just because times have now changed and people today no longer do that.I am sorry you suffered the abuse of the bullies. I know it does leave lifelong scars. My husband when he was a kid suffered abuse at school from his peers too. He was physically assaulted and injured more times than he could count. He was publicly humiliated many times which was even worse. It affects him to this day. However, it is the bullies and their parents who are responsible for your trauma, not your well meaning parents who tried the best they could but fell short. Some day your child when grown up may resent you for doing or not doing something enough right now.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (6 December 2013):
 You let it go. Holding on to that anger is getting you no where.
What you CAN do though, IS not repeat what your parents did with your own children. LEARN from their mistake.
As for walking to school.. Um my kids walked to school last 1/2 of the school year (about a 5-10 minute walk.) My youngest (then 8) I walked WITH her because people drive like morons. I'm pretty sure it's not abuse to have you child walk to school.
BUT maybe AFTER you told them about being bullied they should have though of alternative ways for you to get to school. However, it's water under the bridge.
The school as well, took the EASY way out, by saying not our problem. Again, not much you CAN do about that now.
You are holding to something negative and something you CAN NOT change. It makes YOU a bitter person. It resolves nothing. That is why I say, let it go. Learn from it. Walk your child, or drive. TALK to your child about bullies when she/he is old enough for school. BE a proactive and loving parent.
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