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writes:I caught my 12 year old niece smoking cigarettes with her friend.I was going to tell her mom, as I was bringing her home she said that if she gave me a blowjob can I forget about it?We pulled down a back road and she sucked me off in my car, She spit it out into a napkin.Then I took her home.She wants to do it again!Should I put a stop to it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2008): There is nothing "complex" about a 12-year-old girl giving a guy her own age or older a blowjob. Especially in this case, since what she was doing was trading a blowjob for a favor. Lots of girls have done and do this. And most teenage girls will tell you that giving a guy a blowjob isn't sex. They obviously don't think it's a big deal, so why should a guy, or anyone else, make a big deal out of it? Would it be any different if this girl was 17 or 18 and gave her uncle a blowjob in return for him not telling her parents about something she did that they wouldn't approve of?
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reader, Star_07 +, writes (9 April 2008):
 There is a HUGE difference between doing that with someone her own age and a man. With someone her own age, neither party REALLY understands the complexities of what they are doing. This is a grown man who should know what he is doing. Its ILLEAGAL what he is doing, for a VERY GOOD REASON!
Im sick of the excuses on here that "she wanted to" or "all the young girls are doing it"! Its crazy!
No wonder there are so many problems going on. Adults can even protect children anymore, just take advantage of them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2008): I think carebear is way off base. Notice she didn't address my statement that there isn't that much difference between this girl sucking off her uncle and sucking off a boy her own age. So what if she is only 12? That's the age girls are giving blowjobs these days. Do you know that in middle school, oral sex is the sex of choice? By the time they are 15, over half of girls have given a blowjob.
I would be interested to know how old you were, carebear, when you gave YOUR first blowjob. In bet you were under age 20 when it happened for the first time.
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reader, carebear  +, writes (6 April 2008):
 Some of the answers on this subject are just quite ridiculious! I don't care if she BEGGED YOU TO DO IT!
I don't care if she is related to you or not to the 2 anon and firephenix YOU think this is OK because she wanted to do it!!???? anons post as yourselfs and to f/phenix you are 16yrs old don't you know right from wrong? Poster hope she tells someone and you get you deserve!This girl is 12!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2008): I agree with firephoenis999. It was the niece's idea, and the writer said she is his niece only by marriage not by blood. And I've read posts from girls who have done this kind of thing with a male relative, and initiated it on their own. At another website, I saw a post from a teeange girl who said she repeatedly asked her uncle to buy her and her friend alcohol, and when he said no because it was against the law, she offered to give him a blowjob if he would buy the alcohol for her, so of course the uncle gave in. This girl was a little older, like 16 or 17, but the point is it was the girl's idea. Same thing here. It was her idea. I don't see that there's a lot of difference between this girl sucking off her uncle or a boy her own age, as long as she initiated it and wants to do it.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (17 March 2008):
 I caught my 12 year old niece smoking cigarettes with her friend.-- OkayI was going to tell her mom, as I was bringing her home she said that if she gave me a blowjob can I forget about it?-- Oh boy, like giving you a blowjob is a less bad then smoking? I might have skipped telling mom on the smoking but the BLOWJOB? No way. We pulled down a back road-- WE? Who drove the car? and she sucked me off in my car, she spit it out into a napkin.-- a bit to much detailThen I took her home.-- Well sure, locking her up in your cellar would cause questions.She wants to do it again!-- Why? Money?Should I put a stop to it?-- You shouldn't even have bloody started. Geez god man, if this found out you go STRAIGHT TO JAIL and they HATE child molesters there (proofing criminals ain't all bad). Ever seen "to catch a predator", that wasn't a HOWTO!You're sick! Blackmailing a 12 yr old relative into sex. Exactly how many seconds do you think a jury needs to convict you?
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reader, Star_07 +, writes (17 March 2008):
I'm not talking about things you see on TV or some documentary. I am talking about what the research shows and my point is that they are not capable to make those kinds of decisions. Meanwhile, this man is clearly an adult and should know what he is doing and the consequences of his actions. Therefore, I am suggesting, that he as an adult should not take advantage of a girl that "appears" to know what she is doing. Appearing to know what she is doing is completely different than being concientious and fully present in sexual activities.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2008): To those of you who say this man abused this girl, remember that SHE was the one who offered him the blowjob. So the whole thing was her idea, not his. You may not be aware of this, but middle school girls don't think that a blowjob is sex. They actually like doing it. I saw an HBO special called Middle School Confessions, and all these girls talked about giving blowjobs is fun and it's not really sex. In fact, to them it is such a casual thing, that I have read posts from girls who said they have gotten older guys to buy alochol and cigarettes for them by offering them blowjobs in return for them buying the stuff. ABC's 20/20 did a similar story, and what was interesting about that is that while some of the mothers cried when they found out their daughters had given blowjobs, the reporter asked how many of the women had similar experiences as a way to learn how to have sex, and all the women raised their hands. The reporter asked them if that wasn't being hypocritical, and the women admitted it was, but they thought that their own experiences were OK because it helped them learn about sex and to be ready for a sexual relationship later in life.
If you want to blame anyone, blame the girl's parents for not being better parents and teaching this girl that it's not OK to do this kind of stuff.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2008): Have you ever seen Dateline's "To catch a predator"? Thats YOU a million times over!!!!
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reader, Star_07 +, writes (12 March 2008):
Society and the media have made what it is. Thats exactly right. But your interpretation of that is COMPLETELY wrong. Somehow, you have gotten this message that it is okay to abuse girls. Thanks to the media and society, millions of girls are abused, raped, and killed EVERYDAY with no serious consequence. If I knew who you were I would report you to the police. Stop defending yourself, you are WRONG, PERIOD!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2008): I posted this question and I just have to add to this.First of all, she is my niece, but I am not genetically related to her, my sister in law is her mom. It's a relation by marriage.So in that aspect I don't consider it incest.She's starved for attention as her parents are divorced and her mom is always working and her father is out of the picture.I treat her like royalty because I love her and I know I'll get a blowjob for my efforts.I don't even have to ask, she wants to do it and we do.She swallows if I ask her and she does it willingly.The only reason I have'nt fucked her yet is because I'm too big for her still.So enough with the bullshit that she can't think like an adult or she does'nt know what she's doing or I'm coercing her.She know's exactly what she's doing and I have never ever forced her to do anything.There are real problems out there. There was a time when this was normal for the girl to be young.And for the other idiots who claim I should get help, I ask; help for what? Because an underage girls gives me head? It's just normal sex.Society and the media made it what it is.But as long as there are willing underage girls I'll take advantage of it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2008): Moderator, please do we need this short of sicko in our world?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2008): see male anon below doesn't give his name i wonder why!!!this is not back in the wild west son its here and now and this guy could be procecuted for this withers she agreed or not he is the adult heknows it wrong he could go to jail but the last advice you gave " I hope for your sake, it doesn't come back to haunt you later" what about his neice what if it haunts her is that ok should she still keep it secret????Like the poster here get real abusing kids PERVERT/PEDO thats what poster is see he's never posted reply to any of us yet wonder why!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2008): If it were me, I wouldn't stop it. I would let her suck you off as long or for as many times as she wants to do it. The only danger is that if she gets mad at you, she would tell her parents, and then you'd really be in trouble. So you will have to be extra nice to her, buy her nice things that she will really like so that she will start to really like you. You have already earned her trust by not telling her parents about her smoking.
To those of you who say it's child abuse, back in the Wild West, girls used to get married at age 15, when they hit puberty. Now it's considered a crime for an 18 y.o. guy to have sex with a 16 y.o., and it's only because somewhere, society and government decided to adopt laws forbidding such behavior. Girls today are more sexually advanced and knowledgeable than thirty years ago, and they are fully aware of what they are doing when they agree to have some kind of sexual encounter with another person, either their own age or older.
So I say let her do this for you as long as she wants to do it. If your conscience starts bothering you, then stop. Just make her swear to never tell anyone, or to never hold it against you later. You will have to go to great lengths to stay on her good side, now that this has happened. I hope for your sake, it doesn't come back to haunt you later.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2008): eewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww,
thats nasty
how could u do that
FAMILY!!!
YOU CANT DO FAMILY!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2008): This seems like a joke, and I hope to god it is, but if you're serious...Well, pal, you belong in jail. That girl had no idea what she was doing, she's a child! Just because a girl might act like an adult it doesn't mean that her brain is more developed or that she can THINK like an adult...and she certainly isn't capable of making adult decisions. This is one of the worse things I've ever heard, it's absolutely disgusting and there is NO excuse for it! Someone below posted some crap about male sex drive and little girls dressing too slutty....um, hello?????!!!! Just because a girl is in a tube top and is willing to suck you off that doesn't make it ok to do it! Just because a woman dresses in a revealing way that doesn't give you an invitation to rape her! That's utter nonsense and it really irritates me. Stop trying to blame rape on the woman! You're an adult man with adult thinking capacity and you know better than to take advantage of a child! I cannot believe anyone has the nerve to hide behind excuses for their actions, like "She was asking for it by wearing that mini skirt!" or "I'm a man, I can't control my penis." Please, STOP, take some responsibilty for your own actions! There is NEVER an excuse for rape and certainly NEVER an excuse for sexual relations with a child! Every man can control his thoughts and penis, to say otherwise is insanity. This question is just sick and you, sir, belong in jail.
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reader, Star_07 +, writes (25 January 2008):
Male anon and anyone else justifying child abuse:So you are justifying girls getting molested as well??? Just because young people are more sexually advanced does NOT make it right. Their brains are not advanced! Just because something seems physically pleasurable doesnt make it right!!!! What about if she was 8 and he masterbated her? It would physically feel good to her but does that make it right????You are justifying child abuse. The laws are in place for a reason and if you dont understand that then I think you need to do some research on children and teens. You cant really believe that a child REALLY knows what they are doing. And if you still dont get it, then I think you need to contact a professional.Good Day!
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reader, sexi  +, writes (23 January 2008):
 Hi
You wanted to tell her mum that she was smoking......Because it was wrong for her to do and she needed to be disciplined but then you allow her to give you a blow job and you consider that right?!? I think i would have rather allowed her to smoke then to let a 12 year old give you a blow? Are you crazy? And now you are even considering doing it again?!? You being her uncle should reprimand her for smoking not "blackmail" her into giving you a blow job. You are acting like you are the one that is 12. I think that you should STAY AWAY FROM HER nad find someone your own age to give you the pleasure you are seeking in a 12 year old!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2008): OK everyone, let's discussed this subject rationally.
I am just offering my opinion, nothing more.
Some girls start young, and they tease older men.
What do you think is going to happen?
A hard dick has no conscience, so this girl came on to her uncle and he got a blow job out of it.
Nowhere was anything said he forced her or hurt her.
She enjoyed it and is willing to do it again.
How can she be victimized?
I think this man is trying to ask that since the act was concensual and invited did that make it right?
Years ago, relationships like this were normal and we are genetically wired for this.
It is from the Victorian era that many sexual issues were vilized and made into taboo subjects.
That's why men are attracted to young girls, it goes back to our evolutionary past and has not been bred out yet.
Just because the law says one thing does not mean the law is right.
A lot of blame also needs to be put on the parents where it belongs.Girls 10,11,12 or younger wearing belly shirts,tight clothes,make up are going to attract. The sexualization of children is due to the endless advertising that little girls need to dress like the latest pop slut.
Any help is useless. You cannot contain the human sex drive.
We need to rethink the age of consent laws, todays children are much more advanced sexually than you think.
It happens more than you think.
I am unbiased on this subject and am just offering my thoughts.
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reader, Snickerdoodle +, writes (21 January 2008):
 I can't help but think this must be some sort of joke. I have a hard time believing someone could possibly need to come on this website to know whether or not that was the right thing to do.
However, my faith in humanity is always dropping to new lows, so I'll assume that this is real.
You are her uncle; if by blood, not only did you take advantage of a prepubescent child, but the whole event was also incestuous. If you aren't related to her by blood, the matter still remains that you took advantage of a young child who you were supposed to be responsible of.
Definitely do not allow it to happen again. Avoid any and all contact with your niece. And for the sake of other small children who might try to seduce you, get counseling.
In addition to that, your niece has been victimized, even if she was the one who brought on the situation. Inform her parents what happened and that she is smoking, because that's really what you should have done in the first place. This girl clearly needs counseling, as well, so make sure she gets it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2008): Oki shes 12 way 2 young to be smoking and giving blowjobs! How would you feel if that was your daughter! Your an adult you should have nown better! STOP now befor it gets any harder to stop .. x good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2008): hey as her uncle l think that you should never have let it occur in the first place. It was more your duty to inform her parents about it and let them handle the situation. As for it happening again......just think if it was your daughter......would you like it or approve of it? Remember karma.....what you do is what you get back! Try to find it in your heart and understand what you did was wrong! Learn from this experience and you will know the right answer to this question.......just be honest with yourself and help your niece to react in a more dignified way! all the best
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reader, julesc53 +, writes (14 January 2008):
This is abuse and incest, you should be ashamed of yourself and should know better. You are the adult in this senario. This is far more serious than smokking. It should never happen again and you should stay away from your niece.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2008): You are a sexual predator and need counseling NOW! Your victim needs help too.
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reader, Star_07 +, writes (14 January 2008):
Umm..yeah! She is a CHILD. Just because she might appear to look like a lady, act like one, and talk like one doesnt make her a woman. She still thinks like a CHILD. As a grown man, you shouldnt have ever done that in the first place! That is completely wrong as you have taken advantage of her. If you dont understand that as an adult, I think you need psychiatric help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2008): i hope this hasn't happened at all and if it has i suggest you get some help very quickly for yourself as you are very sick.
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