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writes:I've been talking to this guy for about a week now and the other night we were in his car just talking about life. Suddenly he tells me he is tired of keeping his hand down on his lap to cover "it". We weren't talking about anything sexual, so is that normal or is that a little weird? I wasn't grossed out, I just never had a guy get a boner while talking to me about something completely non sexual. Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (24 March 2011):
 Oh heck no! If he has a GF, I'd say stay as far away as possible. First of all he should never have acted upon the "chemistry" with someone who might be a "recruit" , VERY unprofessional behavior, but I don't think that is the first time he's done it. Highly inappropriate even with you deciding not to join.I would not pursue this guy or a relationship with him.RED flags all over the place with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell it was weird because i didnt want to talk to him in the first place. He's a navy recruiter and thats how i met him. I went to the armed forces center to get information because I was a little interested in joing.
We kind of had this chemistry and he messaged me on facebook and then we statred texting. I decided not to join and asked him out, but he told me had a gf he was seeing for a few weeks, they just met and started dating right away and he doesn't see her because shes in a different state.
I told him to call me when he's single, but he insisted we get to know eachother... and a few days later, the car incident happened.
What should I do? Is he playing games with me and just wants sex or what is he going for?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2011): Could it possibly be that he was tired of putting on a show of why you are really sitting in his car (at least in his minds eye) and he sought to drag the subject to a more sexual side? Perhaps he is playing "the nice guy" and figures a week is long enough, and to move on to what he was really after in the first place? I am not saying that this is what it is, but just bear in mind that not everyone is what they seem, and after only about a week for him to say something of that nature when these talks have been anything but sexual seems kind of creepy and in a one track mind sort of way. Seems like he was trying to "feel you out" emotionally speaking before he progressed towards the physical side of it.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (21 March 2011):
Obviously you turned him on. And obviously he isn't a shy guy.
However, seeing that you guys have only been getting to know each other for a week, I think it's a little creepy.
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reader, cupidus  +, writes (21 March 2011):
 I don't know if "I'm tired of covering up" is such a good way of putting it, did he really say it that way, was there anything humorous in his voice or was it more frustration?
It's totally natural, it's not entirely a bad thing unless he starts to pressure you to un-pressure him.
Just don't dwell on it and maybe he won't dwell on the swell.
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