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writes:Okay, I have a slight problem. I have been crushing on this guy for about 9 months now. His name is James. He used to date my best friend; Allie, they dated for 8 months but then Allie dumped him. James and I still were friends after the break up even though Allie was a little mad about me staying friends with him. During the summer Allie went away to Miami for a trip. And me thinking no harm done, I hung out with James. I have no clue how she heard that I hung out with him but lets just say she was furious and ended our friendship just like that. At the time when I hung out with him I didn't have any feelings for him. But it started to form a month after our hangout. I told him that I had a crush on him and he reacted by saying “I think your a great girl, but since my last relationship I just don't think I am ready“ I thought that was totally understandable. After a few months I realized I still had a massive crush on him. It's been 7 months since I told him I liked him. Should I remind him of my feelings for him? Or should I just move on? (And how am I suppose to move on?) And does Allie have a right to be mad at me when she was the one who dumped James?
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reader, happyface  +, writes (21 March 2011):
 You should move on dear,you know if a guy really likes you he makes an effort,reminders aren't needed in that..With your best friend,have u asked her why did she get angry when she heard about you and her ex.?..because i think their are two sides here..it's either your best friend wants to save you because she found something unpleasant on her ex and she doesn't want you to suffer on what she had gone through..or maybe she's just some kinda selfish,a possessive type of a person,i mean maybe she's still in love with the guy that's why she got angry when she heard about you and him and that she can't take it when she sees another woman with that guy :)) just try to ask her,i know this isn't easy but it's worth a try,i don't have any other idea on how to get an answer on why your best friend got angry at you :|
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