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writes:I am gutted as my long ditance g\f broke with me but friends say it was a farce. What do you guys think?* In jan 2007 I had 10 days with a girl in NZ, full of passion and affection. I am from UK* Between Jan 07 and April 07 we email and phone constantly between NZ and UK and very loved up. Full of 'miss you's'* In April 07 we meet in vietnam and have amazing 12 days* April 07-Dec 07, its back to phone and email. still all loved up* Jan 08 I goto stay with her in NZ for 3 weeks and we nearly kill each other. I found her constantly putting me down as she was a bit of a clean freak criticizing the way i did everything and she says i have temper* Feb 08..ALL OVER.. I had planned to emmigrate to NZ but now she says it won't work. I probably agree but still wanted to give a goWas this 12 months a farce and not really a relationship at all?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2008): It often happens when a couple have been dating for quite sometime and then when they decide to move in together, start living together they realize that they are not compatible.
I personally don't think the distance made any difference.
You cared about each other, but are not compatible.
Start getting out there and find a girl that will love you and value you for who you are, as you are.
GOod luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2008): I don't think it was a farce... But I think that because you were mainly communicating over phone and email, you only saw oneside of each other, the other side wouldn't show over the phone or in an email. When someone knows a person mainly through means other than being with them in person, then sometimes they can fill in the gaps and presumme that person's like they are themselves because you get on so well away from eachother.
I know that what your friends are saying must be very hurtful because you felt very stongly about her. Talk to them and tell them that you don't apprecaite them saying that to you.
Try to move on... You had good times with one another, but it seems that you wern't really as well suited as you'd hoped.
It wasn't a farce in either of your minds and you had strong feelings for one another at the time. That's all that matters.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2008): Or she could just be a comittment phobic. The last few events where she put you down etc are all traits of a person who is one. In the beginning the relationship is great...then when the CP suddenly realises that things are getting too serious they start sabotaging the relationship even though everything's going just great.
Cut your losses and run. That's what I did. Still getting over it but I know it's for the best. There's someone out there who deserves you and who would want to be with you in the long run for a very long time.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (19 June 2008):
 Sweetie, think of it as a 12 month holiday romance... when you are on holiday everythings just great, contact via email and phone is also just great.... but when it comes to the crunch and you spend more time in your own environment with that person you then find that you dont really have a thing going at all....
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