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writes:This is kind of a long story, it's partly about what happened yesterday and partly about my entire life... Please bear with me!I'm an almost 20 year old girl, I'm a virgin and I've never had a boyfriend, and lately I've been getting frustrated about it. It's not that guys weren't interested, I just wanted to be with someone that I found interesting enough, but that never really happened... I usually find older guys (not old, just older than me, like 27 and older) attractive, but I don't know if that's because they're different or because they're harder to get (and it's easy to live in a dream world and have crushes without doing anything about it).Anyway, to get to the point, I started college in September and I kinda got into a different scene where everyone is sleeping with everyone. Well, I'm still not really into that, but I'm thinking maybe I shouldn't be so stuck up and just have some fun (please don't say anything about God or the bible because I really don't believe in that, not many people in Holland do). And I have been craving for some attention (physically).So, yesterday I was sitting on the couch with a (girl) friend of mine, and a (guy) friend of hers, and he was sitting in the middle and we were both leaning against him, watching a movie. I don't really know him that well, but he's just really friendly and spontaneous. So he absent-mindedly started stroking my arm, drawing circles, then putting his hand on mine and playing with my fingers, but he was doing the same with my friend. It sounds stupid, I know, but I really think he didn't really mean anything by it, and that he's just a touchy feely guy.But the thing is, I think I'm attracted to him and this thing really turned me on, and I wish he did mean something by it (although that would be wrong since he did the same with my friend). So maybe he was just trying to make things more fun by flirting a little? Or he really didn't mean anything by it (although I've never met a guy like him, who just touched girls like that, he also stroked my leg and my stomach, as non-sexually as is possible). Or maybe he wouldn't mind just sleeping with girls he was into without really knowing them, although he didn't really make a move? He did tell me he's had a relationship of a year with a girl he thought was interesting but he wasn't really in love with..I'm just really confused about this and wanted to share, and hear your thoughts on what this guy meant by doing that. I'm not sure how to get across what it felt like he meant, but I hope you understand.
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reader, aphexinfinite  +, writes (15 January 2012):
 aww no problem i'm so glad it worked its self out in the end. At least now you have the answers to your question. All the best aphex xx
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (15 January 2012):
aww no problem i'm so glad it worked its self out in the end. At least now you have the answers to your question. All the best aphex xx
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reader, elise22 +, writes (13 January 2012):
elise22 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks for answering! You were right, and you made me feel better :). Thing is, yesterday I found out that he actually had sex with my friend sometime that week, and it had happened before, so... I'm just going to forget about it. I'm really not getting into this scene, and it's not like I was in love with him. So thanks! At least I know what to do now.
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (4 January 2012):
He is a guy and their not normally that good to read their actions or thoughts. However you got a guy and two pretty girls i think you would be tempted to play a little without making it dirty of course. However as you said he could be that touchy feely guy who is just soft at hear. Since he did it to both of you i would not say it was something really meaningful as he said he has had a long relationship and it was not love. He has shown you something that has sparked your interest and you want more. Women can not help but fall into that lustful seduction were you want more. You are not being stupid at all you got some attention from a male friend and you liked it. The only way you would get an answer is by asking him otherwise you will drive yourself insane wondering what if. You want more or want to know why he did what he did ask him. Too many people make the same mistake of wondering what if and you think about it so much that it begins to fall out perspective. You want more or answers to your questions go ask him. if you want to keep wondering think about it. It could be he is a player and wants to sleep about who knows but he is the only one with the answers and you are the one with the question. Hope this helps good luck. aphex xx
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