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writes:Maybe my question is stupid, bare with me. recently my gf and I were playing a game, something like truth or dare, I asked her with how many guys she has have sex with, she hesitated for a bit and she answered "only with you". when we had sex for the first time she bled a little bit and I know for sure she was not on her period. it was very easy to penetrate her, she didnt show any pain at all, she seemed comfortable. so i tought that perhaps i was been a little too rough with her about the bleeding. a couple of months after I told her about the bleeding, if I was been too rough or if she was a virgin and she said dont worry, I was not a virgin and you were not rough at all.... when I reminded her about this, she said she lied because she felt there was not need to let me know she was a virgin for the first time snd wanted to keep it for herself.... I really dont care if she has been witn guys or not, but know is bothering me if she she is lying or not.... why would she lie? I dont know what to belive now, she told me that she ordered a vibrator on line and used a few years before me and she is 10 years younger than me. is it possible she lost her virginity to a vibrator so that's why she wad so comfortable when I penetrated her for the first time? or maybe she is lying about the whole thing?
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reader, mkateko  +, writes (25 June 2013):
 I don't really get what your problem is here man, does it really matter if she was a virgin or not, or are you having a problem of her telling lies. Being honest to your self, how many time you lied to her. Look man focus on the relationship and don't spoil relationship with things that are beyond your control. She is no longer a virgin and that is a fact, so you mean if you part with her she don't have to get another man who will love and marry her. Love her and forget about all that, don't even ask such again it is not neccesory, what matters most here is how you guys threat each other. At your age it is not easy go get a virgin these days, may be in the 18th century bro.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (25 June 2013):
 Lol youre a man and youre worried about this? Cmon pal focus on pleasing each other and getting to kno her body. Forget about the rest its not important.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2013): You are a man between the age of 30 to 35, and it doesn't matter if she lied or not. She explained she used a vibrator in the past, that in itself is an embarrassing detail to offer someone; but a totally legitimate explanation.Did you play truth or dare to make her bare her soul, so you could judge her? If you did, that was sneaky, nasty, and underhanded. Not that it should have mattered; but you could have just asked out outright. Or not at all!!!Some people just don't know when to back off and leave sensitive elements out of the relationship. They obsess over useless details that eventually fester into a full-blown wound in the relationship. STOP MEDDLING, SHE HAS ALREADY TOLD YOU THE TRUTH.You contradict yourself saying on one hand it doesn't matter if she has been with anyone else; on the other, you accuse her of possibly lying. It's your problem, not hers.If she wasn't a virgin, are you implying she isn't good enough to be trusted? Even worse than that; she isn't good enough for you? A woman can have her hymen fully intact, and use every other orifice in place of her vagina to have sex. Purity and innocence is lost when you are no longer a child!!! Not when you first have sex.Get the medieval concept of virginity out of your head. Women don't have to wear chastity belts anymore. They don't need a man to lose their virginity. It can be lost on a bicycle, horseback-riding, or inserting a tampon.What is she expected to do, run a DVD replaying every moment of her life history from birth to the moment you first had intercourse? Show her some love and respect and drop the subject. I mean completely!!! Welcome to the 21st century!!! If it doesn't matter, then never bring up the subject again; and love her as you did until this stupid suspicion arose in your mind.People lucky enough to find love aren't happy until they sabotage the relationship. I know how some men can be about stupid details like you're insinuating. Then who is to blame?If you don't grow up, you may not be her first and only.You may just be the last breakup before the right guy comes along. Think about that.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (24 June 2013):
 she did not "lose her virginity to a vibrator" although she may have enjoyed using it.
not feeling pain during first penetration is not abnormal. I did not. And yet I have on subsequent acts. I also did not bleed the first time but have other times. women's bodies are a funny thing to be honest and not even the woman may know what's going on..
if you do not care if she has a sexual past, then go to her and tell her just that and tell her why you are wondering and let her set your mind at ease.
it may be she was a virgin or it may be that she was not honest with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2013): A lot of girls have the idea that virginity is embarrassing.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (24 June 2013):
 If she bled then it is very likely that she was a virgin and that you where her first, it is also very likely that she was embarrassed about being a virgin so she lied and said that she wasn't so she didn't feel any shame. For many people this can be a very touchy subject and she might have felt uncomfortable telling you.
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