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writes:My guy and I dated for a year and were about to commit exclusively to a long-term relationshipWithout any warning,and perplexed by his sudden change of heart, I knew something went wrong. Just before he abruptly broke off with me, a male co-worker of his joined our church, where we all spent most of our time, other than our jobs and homes. Subsequently, we became aquainted, until he hit on me, and with all gaul, said that he would give anything if I'd marry him! Astonished by his lack of integrity, I responded, "I won't marry anyone I don't love, ever". So then he proceeded to tell me that, he felt, I needed to know that my guy's attraction is untoward younger, slimer women, who adorns lohg hair, fairer skin, and with whom he could conceive another child. After giving this guy both sides of my mind, I believed in my heart that his thoughts on the matter was of no consequence to me, because my guy whom I known as friend and brother in the church and dated over the last year, would never be so reckless with my feelings, as a real man [which he is]would not enter into a relationship with me if indeed these were his preferences. But the fact of the matter is, my guy hasn't to date given any viable explanation. And I know he is still interested. Could it be possible that this so-called friend is guilty of sabotaging our relationship? HOW COULD THIS HAPPEN? Just as a snake in the grass would, but fortunately, left the church and suddely married a woman, he felt needed him to help her through an addiction. I jaded, angry and about all the time we have missed; life is too short.JAS
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reader, Candleman +, writes (29 September 2009):
 It obviously could be that your man just doesn't want to commit that far for whatever reason, but given the abrupt change it seems more like the snake said something about you.
I would venture to guess snake proably said something along the lines that you two had intimate relations or you had them with someone else? Or, who knows what. Something pretty bad though.
Ask your man what the snake said. Tell him what the snake said to you. Patiently communicate with your man to try to get answers. Talk more about the snake with your man in order to find other aspects of the snakes character that would help your man see who he really is.
You've probably done this in which case, the only other thing would be to find someone else the snake may have effected in order to expose his scales.
Did the snake attend a church prior to your church? If so, go there and ask around. People like this guy probably has a bunch of enemies or at least people that have soured to him so you have a chance.
Good Luck
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