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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi there, I met this guy and we went out twice. He texted me last sunday and said let's meet up this week (meaning before friday, he will be traveling during the we) and go out for drinks. I replied (trying to not pressure him): Perfect I have to see other people too so text me when you know your plansAnd he never texted back. I do not understand really ... I just need to know to organise with my friends. Why kind of behaviour is that ? What should you do ? Was my text confusing or a turn off?Thanks !!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2011): It does sound kind of like he is just another person in the mix of people you want to see during the week.
A better response would have been 'great, I look forward to it, what day were you thinking?' And then making yourself available. Or if you did have possible plans saying 'Great, I look forward to it, please let me know some times you are free and I'll make myself free :)'
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2011): It would have been alot easier if he had phoned you initially so you could sort it there and then!
I think your response gave him the idea he was one of many, that you may just fit him into your busy life.
You could ring him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2011): Well, I think a better text perhaps may have been something like 'Great, what day were you thinking? I'll make sure I'm free :-)'
But if he hasn't replied, and he's your age, he sounds a bit immature to be honest!!!
Or he may have got the wrong end of the stick (so to speak), like the others suggested?
Why not just text him again to clarify? If he can't be arsed to answer, then move on, and it's his loss, hey!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2011): It came off like you were trying too hard to get him to nail down a time and to let him know how busy you are socializing. All you really needed to say was "perfect, look forward to it" and allow him to take the lead.
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reader, celtic_tiger  +, writes (24 November 2011):
 "Perfect I have to see other people too so text me when you know your plans"
He probably thought you meant you had other men to see.... maybe he thinks he is one of many men you are 'dating'?
Probably just a confusion with words! If you had said, friends, work mates, girlfriends.... it might have sounded different.
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