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female
age
30-35,
*ynameisasecret
writes:So, my teacher is like... more than a teacher to me. He is my mentor. He has done a lot for me and helped me so much in life situations and how I can deal with them. Because of that, he has made me a happier person than how I used to be (which was a negative, down person.) We give each other hugs to show our appreciation and all. However, one day, I kissed him on the cheek to show my appreciation because he had said some stuff to me that meant a lot. (Mentor-wise) Saying like he's proud of how much I've accomplished and so on. Like it made me so happy, I kissed him on the cheek. But then after that, I feel kind of like regretting I did that. I KNOW a normal hug or something like that would've done good, but I was just SO touched, and I'm just not used to feeling so happy. So my question basically is... was kissing him on the cheek wrong? Because I can see how it could be misunderstood easily. Please do not reply with an answer like "You could've just given him a hug and thank you or a gift," (Or anything like that.) It's just, I was SO happy, and touched, it's hard to express. :)
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reader, baddest_chikk  +, writes (1 March 2010):
 maybe it was a little too much to kiss him on the cheek but its not horrible tht you did.. mayb u should jus ask him how he felt and tell him it was jus beacuse of the moment and nothing else..
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reader, mselu08  +, writes (21 February 2010):
Female anon- You are the reason many innocent men go to jail for being accused of sexual misbehavior with a minor. How was he supposed to prevent her from kissing him on the cheek? Should he have punched her in the face?
The only reason I believe it was inappropriate of you to kiss your teacher on the cheek is the trouble he may get in for people like "female anon" taking it the wrong way. For the sake of your teacher, stop touching him and hugging him. People will obviously get the wrong impression of you both.
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male
reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2010): Female anonymous your post, if anything, is pure evil. This is a very honest opinion. I just could not find any reason for what you have said! What did the man do AT ALL to deserve scandal and jail? Are you sure you were responding to this post not to some other post?
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reader, Faraday +, writes (13 February 2010):
 Female anon, that is very harsh and unwarranted. How can you ascribe bad motives from what the OP has written and how could the teacher "not allow" something that had already happened unexpectedly?
It would be wrong of him to follow it up with further action, but there is no word of any such thing in the OP.
I suspect your motives for writing what you did to have more to do with something in YOUR past? Please do not be so ready to think ill of someone based on zero evidence, especially as to do so and encourage the OP to take draconian action against her altruistic Mentor (he IS, unless proven differently) could lead to loss of his job, police action and fearsome consequences.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2010): Sweetness it was so wrong of HIM, not of you, to allow this kiss to happen. He is an adult, and supposed to be responsible, and should never let one of his female students kiss him on the cheek!!!
If he is the type that allows that, I suggest that you be extra careful around him, and if he ever tried anything on you then talk to some other teacher about it all, or report him to the police. He is a potential pervert and I would feel relieved if people like him don't ever teach in girls' schools again, otherwise they belong behind bars.
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reader, Faraday +, writes (13 February 2010):
You were caught up in the moment, and I am sure he realised that. There is no need to reproach yourself as I'm sure he won't interpret it as a declaration of undying love, just a nice gesture from a grateful pupil, which is exactly what it was.
Have you seen him since, and if so has he seemed different or embarrassed in any way? My guess is no, not at all.
You are lucky to have such a caring Mentor, so stop worrying.
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