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30-35,
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writes:I so hate my boyfriend right now. After we got into a fight on sunday evening because of his ex he told me sorry and i forgave him. The next day we both went to work and he didnt call me the whole day like he does on a regualar basis, after work i decided to call him but he wouldnt pick up his phone. later that evening I called him and he called back and talked to me like he did not want to speak. Two hours later he shows up at my house, kissed me and stayed a while talking to me and says he's going home. His phone rang and i tried looking at the number who called but he hung up, put the phone in his ear quickly and says hello. He acted like the person who hung up, when i told him i wanted to see the number he showed me and he said he has nothing to explain to me. I told him that im coming home with him and he says no we need sometime apart. He never says that, all of a sudden he told me that. I really want to know what's going on with him, I want to know if it was his ex who called him or did he invite her over. Right now I'm really having a bad day at work. I'm crying every two seconds and last night i cried myself to sleep, help me please.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2009): You are crying because your boyfriend got a phone call? I don't understand. And because he didn't call you one day and then came to see you and wanted to go to his own home without you?
Don't you think you are acting a little, no a lot clingy? If you keep it up he will totally back away from you.
So you had a fight about his ex. Over what? Did you get it resolved? Then let it go.
You can't control what happens with him and his ex by being clingy anyway, you can let him know how you feel about it, which you did and you will just have to see by his actions if he took it to heart.
If he didn't and he is still seeing her then you remove yourself from him, maybe if it is serious enough, break up with him. That is the worst scenario. Now let's play this scenario to the end.
Will you die if you end up breaking up with your boyfriend? Will your life be ruined at 18 or how ever old you are forever and ever? Or do you think that you just might in some way on some day meet another guy who won't play games with you and keep his ex in the wings or whatever you suspect this one of doing?
See if you are going to play the oh isn't it awful game, then play it to the end and see if your worst fears are really all that dire.
I hope you stop crying and take your mind off of it, usually work helps, but you just have to decide how you are going to handle yourself.
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reader, lostbird  +, writes (8 December 2009):
 maybe he is hiding a surprise for you!
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