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36-40,
*ornygirl
writes:Well, I lost my virginity 6 months ago and I've always masturbated me. The first time I had sex I felt a big pressure, like an orgasm, but not the regular one I always got every time I masturbate, however I'd like to know if that was really an orgasm and if it wasn't what can I do to let myself feel an orgasm that may appeal to the one I get when I masturbate myself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2008): The overwhelming consensus is, "If you have to ask whether it was an orgasm, it probably wasn't.".
And that's OK - many women, perhaps most women, find it difficult to orgasm during intercourse. Some say an orgasm during intercourse feels different because their internal muscles have something to contract against but they have no doubt about what is happening.
Positions might help. Woman on top positions are said to be especially good for the girl's orgasm. Having a finger - yours or his - stroking your genital area during intercourse might help. (A few guys may feel this is an insult to their skill, but a lot of guys think it's a real turn-on if their partner fingers herself during the coupling.) And I think the most common pattern is that the girl gets her main orgasm during foreplay, from her partner's hand or mouth.
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reader, kit_e_kat  +, writes (16 January 2008):
 Well one, don't worry an orgasm during sexual intercourse is different to one felt through clitoral stimulation. And a majority of women cannot orgasm from sexual intercourse alone. So if you find you can't you are not alone. It is possible that the pressure was the leed up to an orgasm, but you usually start to feel like you need to pee before reaching an orgasm through stimulation of the G spot. Now, if your trying to hard then its not going to come because your putting yourself under too much pressure. Relax and perhaps to help you reach orgasm through g spot stimulation you could ask your boyfriend to stimulate the area with his fingers, making a sort of 'come over here' motion with his hand. Its also best that you go to the toilet first too, just in case! It may just be the case that it was your first time and you just need to relax into it some more and eventually orgasm will come as natural as one reached through stimulation of the clitoris, hope i helped x x x
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (16 January 2008):
 an orgasm is an orgasm, if you had one you would know. all orgasms feel more or less the same. but i wouldnt worry, with your first time it would be very uncommon for you to experience an orgasm - some women may never achieve on through intercourse!! if you wanna have one during sex, you can try a number of things - different positions, using your fingers while having sex, and even using toys. if you want more advice i would be happy to talk to you just email me!! also check out sexinfo101.com - this is a really useful site with info on everything for him and her! hope this helps hun good luck xxx
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