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writes: Was what I said hurtful? I was dating a guy for about a month, even though all our dates consisted of simply hanging out at my place. One night his friend called and needed help with something, so he just left, even though I hadn't seen him for a week. I said "Fine, just go." Then I blurted out "Am I just your makeout buddy?" and he was really hurt by that, and keeps reminding me, even though it was a month ago. I apologized, even though I don't think what I said was that hurtful, just my feelings at the time. He considered that a fight, but I think that he just doesn't know how to forgive and let go. If anything, he should be reassuring me that I'm not just a "makeout buddy" to him. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2006): Anonymous I read the headline to this, and the first paragraph and I was expecting something like "I hope you and all your family die".. but what you said, is it that bad? I don't think so.
Maybe this guy is ultra-sensitive? This could be a good thing, but it could also be a bad thing. You don't want to have to act like you are walking on eggshells all the time with him because you are afraid you might upset him!
One of the things that makes a relationship successful is the ability to get through problems and disagreements... remind him of this! He needs to put that one remark in the past, or you'll end up starting to resent him for his inability to forgive!
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reader, Jadzia1127  +, writes (8 July 2006):
 If he was a caring, loving boyfriend he would have validated your feelings and tried everything in his power to make the real truth known.
Yet as all of us know, when someone says something that strikes to close to the horrible truth, it surprises us and the reaction is usually very negative.
It is the ugly side of human nature for him to turn on you and make it your fault for blurting out the truth.
I suggest you reevaluate your relationship and figure out if he still is not admitting to how he was treating you as a 'make-out buddy' or if he has stepped up to the plate and is treating you as a girlfriend.
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