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writes: i broke up with my ex because he made me feel like every girl was better than me and i was never enough for him.he left me in clubs and would disappear then come back to me, if i disappeared would demand to know where i was. he didn't like me with other guys. then ignored me for two weeks. i was fed up! i started dateing someone else older than my ex, felt more relaxed with him and myself. after two weeks my ex text me asking why we broke up. i said because you didn't want me anymore.as i did still have feelings, though i did what was best for me. he said he did, he thought i hated him and didn't want him around anymore. lots of texts like this for a week he then asked if i wanted him back. i wasn't sure how to ansaw i wasn't sure if i wanted to get back into it. as it had affected my confidence. i ignored him for a week, then asked if we could meet up. he said when? we met in a club he told me i was the only girl he ever wanted, that he thought we would last and if i took him back i would be the only one. despite this he told me he had been seeing other girls though protested his faithfulness to me. came back to mine stayed the night. he was disgusted by the idea of me having been with another guy.told me he was very jealous and just wanted to hurt the guy i was seeing. slept together then the morning after he left without saying goodbye, an hour later text me to say 'listen, you have a bf i am seeing someone last night shouldn't have happened. i am sorry for any hard feelings' i text back saying you never really cared have a nice life. i went to the pub with my friends, one of his girl mates saw me and told me that he was hitting on her and many others whilst he was with me and felt that she had to tell me. despite that she never spoke to me before then. that i didn't realise how out of his league i was and was so pretty. my friends just took me home. said i didn't have to listen to that. i text my ex saying so and so told me you hit on her, i'm sick of you playing mind games with me. he text back i didn't realise i was upseting you and playing games.i text back saying telling me you want me back sleeping with me, then to say you don't is playing mind games.youve really hurt me. he said in which case i will leave you alone. i havent heard from him since but i have from exes close friends, they still talk to me, asking me what i am doing how i am. tell me what my ex is doing that hes getting drunk and is still single. i am i am not seeing anyone anymore, i am not sure what happened here if i was the bad guy or i just got used. i'm sorry it's so long but it's been a month and half since this and i feel a bit low about it still. how do i deal with it?
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reader, RAINORFIRE  +, writes (8 January 2010):
 i dont even need to read this whole thing if its this long that tells me enough your not the bad one you made the rite decision now go back to the club as a single girl at pick a better guy this time.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (8 January 2010):
He was a dick, you dumped him for being a dick.
He then lied to you and used you.
You need to move on and get some self respect. Find a man who doesn't have massive double standards and treats you properly.
The only thing you are doing wrong is still worrying about him.
Good Luck!! xx
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