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writes:If someone rejects you for the reason that they find you quite gentle or soft, is there something to do with their own insecurities or that of mine? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2007): Don't you beat yourself up about this. We are all different, I have been rejected many times because people have told me that I'm too caring???? It's my nature to be that way and I'm sure that someone one day will come along and value my personality. There are many people out there and we all fit in along a huge spectrum whether it be from gentle and loving to hard natured and damn right nasty. You just have to wait until you find the right person who is on the same place of the spectrum as you. You are an individual and someone at some point in your life will recognise what you may consider as a weakness at this moment, as a strength. You just have to bide your time, meet lots of people and through experience will find the right person for you.
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reader, mcbirdie  +, writes (15 May 2007):
 That is very nearly an impossible question to answer with anything other than "it depends".
It is possible that they feel an insecurity that leaves them wanting someone who is more clearly in control. Or it is possible that you really do come across as insecure yourself.
My guess, though, would be that you are simply not a good match. Some people suit better a person who is overly-confident and brash; others suit better someone who is softer-spoken and hesitant. We all like something different; the only trick is to find someone who has what we like, that also likes what we have.
Simple enough, really. ;) Best of luck.
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