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36-40,
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writes:My mother is diagnosed of a fatal disease and lives in a different part of the country. I usually fly out to meet her.I have one good friend in my city. since my mother has been sick, i have not felt like being very social. this friend has been getting very insecure and jealous and feels i am purposely not giving time to the friendship. i have told him several times that it is because of my mom and i am not in a mood to have fun. for some reason it doesn't sink into him. he constantly accuses me of doing things with others and not caring for him. it is not like i am having fun with others as well. but he feels i am lying as i do give time to other things/hobbies i like to do since it gets my mind off of things. our friendship died down because of all of this.would you ever forgive him if he sincerely realizes and apologizes?one part i did not mention is that i did close up to my friend. like, if we made plans together and i would instead have to talk to my mom, i would cancel the plan on my friend. and if he asked me what happened, i would never give him a good reason. i would just say "i can't tell you. its personal. but, i have to cancel plans". and every time he would ask me what is going on, i would just tell him - i can't tell him since its personal but i guarantee that i am not purposely canceling on him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2009): Does your friend know your mom is sick? Maybe he thinks your lying to him or trying to blow him off , If you don't tell him the reason for not hanging with him I bet that's what he thinks. Why don't you just tell him your mom needs you and is sick. He should understand that. If not I think this guy has a crush on you and is a bit too jealous. Sounds like he may have a crush on you anyway if he is getting so upset about not being able to see you. I say tell him whats really going on and if he is still wierd about it maybe relook the friendship situation. What dose this guy want from you? Be carefull in all you do cause jealous men can be dangerous if that's the case.
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