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female
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41-50,
*eatherjo
writes:I'm quite upset my boyfriend of 14 years was sending dirty pictures and chatting nasty with women on the internet. This one women he actually gave his cell phone # and he was telling her he loved her for over 3 weeks. After two weeks of fighting and 2 break ups and lots of talking. He says now that he will do anything to keep me happy but he sends me such mixed signals all the time. One minute hes all over me and another he ignores me. He says hes just tired. He doesn't look at me like I do to him. What am I to think? Was I dreaming for thinking things will work out or am I being insecure?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (22 November 2010):
 well first of he has cheated on you, maybe not physically but emotionally and he needs to understand how much he has hurt you, dont just forgive him straight away as this will send out a message to him that he can get away with doing things like this and he will fall in to that path again, later on down the line.
Sit down with him and explain to him just how much he has hurt you and that he needs to work hard on getting the trust back. Tell him you are giving it one month to work on things and to see if he can learn to make you trust him again, tell him after that month if you dont see that things have improved and that you dont feel as loved as you should do then you are walking because you want to be in a relationship were you are loved and are committed to 100%. Goodluck.
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reader, hiro06 +, writes (22 November 2010):
When someone cheats they usually cheat because they feel they are missing something in there relationship. Most of the time for women its that emotional connnection. For most guys its more sexually. Im not saying he didnt for sexual reason, but it sure as hell seems that way. General guys go on the internet because something sexual is missing either they dont find ther spouse attractive anymore, they are looking for some type of excitement, or maybe they are just bored with their sex life. Whatever the reason maybe its best to confront your bf about why his is acting so strange. But if you really want to make it work I would personally advise seeking professional help if you really want it to work, but you guys still have things to work out.
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